Why Successful Women Can't Find a Great Man

Why Successful Women Can't Find a Great Man

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pgwoman is offline pgwoman Post #101  February 4,2009, 2:06pm
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What an interesting article. My late husband hated coming to my office because I was not the same person as I was at home. He liked/loved the "home" me, not the "successful career woman" me. I will certainly keep this in mind.


Many men say they want an independent woman who knows what they want. After reading this article maybe I understand more of the hidden meaning behind this statement. Thank you
 
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cp30,471102 wrote :

What I have found, actually....is that more and more...men my age and especially younger EXPECT a woman to have a career.


Something that has bugged me in the past....is that a man misinterprets who I am ...and sees ME as a "contributor" thinks of ME in terms of money. Or assumes I'm something I'm not.
Can you clarify what a woman is, if she is not a “contributor?”


I for sure look for a woman who “contributes,” meaning she works for a wage that provides her with the lifestyle she wishes for and that her lifestyle today and in her goals is reasonably close to mine.


A desire to leverage her relationship into a lifestyle better than she is able / willing to provide on her own, indefinitely, is, sadly, a desire I am incapable of fulfilling.


I consider myself amongst the “young” men who expect their partners to work. I need them to.
 
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rocchio... I don't really care. My grammar and spelling tends to be atrocious here. It's not on my priority list and I tell myself I'm like Mark Twain or Hemmingway... I can write in my own style and use punctuation as it suits me, to get my point across....and that includes mispellings....its (I'm sorry, it's) all part of my style


but anyway....infer also means to imply
 
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D_Lion,471160 wrote :

cp30,471102 wrote :


What I have found, actually....is that more and more...men my age and especially younger EXPECT a woman to have a career.


Something that has bugged me in the past....is that a man misinterprets who I am ...and sees ME as a "contributor" thinks of ME in terms of money. Or assumes I'm something I'm not.


Can you clarify what a woman is, if she is not a “contributor?”


I for sure look for a woman who “contributes,” meaning she works for a wage that provides her with the lifestyle she wishes for and that her lifestyle today and in her goals is reasonably close to mine.


A desire to leverage her relationship into a lifestyle better than she is able / willing to provide on her own, indefinitely, is, sadly, a desire I am incapable of fulfilling.


I consider myself amongst the “young” men who expect their partners to work. I need them to.
what I mean is...its something people should not assume about each other. It's something to be talked about if people are planning to marry or have children.


I dated a guy when I was 26.....he was much older, 37. I had just graduated with my bachelor's degree and was working an internship (yes I graduated later). He had married a girl years earlier that did not have a degree. He said it was cool that I was educated cause I could help out. We were just dating! He had no clue what my ideals were when it came to things.


I could just see the $$ signs and him calculating how much cheaper his mortgage payment would be once I really got going!


I didn't get an education to help some guy with his mortgage. Thats all I'm saying.


Would I be a contributor, yeah. But its something that can't be assumed up front how that would work out. And what that means, just because a girl had a successful career before or at the time she met you.
 
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Right. Money first.


A lot of guys won't get married for the same reason. It's nothing new.
 
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3rd_the_charm,471191 wrote :

Right. Money first.


A lot of guys won't get married for the same reason. It's nothing new.
Actually I dumped him for his tendency toward rage and hostility, especially while driving and I could not leap out of the car.
 
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I've had several women try to use their money to attract me. That kind of surprised me, as I generally figured it was men, rather than women, who tried to use wealth to attract a partner. I suppose it's just a matter of using whatever one has at one's disposal to attract someone they want.


Myself, I would prefer that a woman be financially stable and able to take care of herself. I've gotten a negative feeling in the past when I got the feeling that a woman really NEEDED me to support her financially (I mean permanently, not just for a period of time). If a woman is able to take care of herself financially....that's good enough for me. I don't care how much money more than this she makes.


Also, what I value in a woman isn't having a 'career' per se. Rather, I like a woman who has something(s) that she's very interested in, finds meaningful and enjoys pursuing.
 
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Mr_Right,470285 wrote :

Naaaah, I think women enter certain career fields because they're interested in that type of work.


Meeting the men there is just a bonus. Why do something you can't stand for a living.




I considered going to engineering school because I had an interest and probably ten men to one woman. I ended up choosing nursing, one man in ten women. Both occupations were interesting to me but I should have chosen the men, working with all women is rough.
 
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This is just pathetic, and a bit frightening at the same time.


I'd almost cry "troll", but I honestly think the posts in question are real.


How sad.
 
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June,471257 wrote :

Mr_Right,470285 wrote :


Naaaah, I think women enter certain career fields because they're interested in that type of work.


Meeting the men there is just a bonus. Why do something you can't stand for a living.








I considered going to engineering school because I had an interest and probably ten men to one woman. I ended up choosing nursing, one man in ten women. Both occupations were interesting to me but I should have chosen the men, working with all women is rough.
working with other women in engineering type fieldsis worse especially when you are with other men, and she prefers to be the only woman among the men!
 
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