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thinkingitslame is offline thinkingitslame Post #41  June 2,2010, 9:31pm
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Picture this: You meet someone at a party that seems interesting, so you go up to them and try to strike up a conversation:
 
"Hi."
 
They don't answer you for three minutes.  Finally: "Hi."
 
"How you you know the host?"
 
wait five minutes.  "Oh from college.  You?"
 
"We work together.  Having a good time?"
 
Wait ten minutes.
 
By now you've probably stopped talking to this freak who is obviously not interested in communicating with you.
 
I'm a 33 year old, fit, decent looking guy with a stable job and good social skills.  I'm single now, but in a month I can pretty much guarantee I won't be.  Ladies... if you take three weeks to answer you're wasting your money on dating sites.  It's your lack of social skills, or your inability to prioritize a relationship that is keeping you single.
 
And guys... if you think we have options how many do you think the attractive ladies have?  A hell of a lot more than us.  Wait even three or four days to respond and you're off the menu.
 
I don't get it.  If you subscribe, why not respond?  It takes minutes.  Either write back or close the match.
 
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WilliamScottSmith is offline WilliamScottSmith Post #42  July 2,2010, 4:07pm
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aquaman wrote :
Be patient and use the "Nudge" ladies!!! Do you know that the man is not on a two week vacation? Do you know that he is not down with a flu bug? Do you know that he is not tied up after work helping out his friends and neighbors? Do you know how many matches he gets each day and has to manage? You may become his special match, but for now, give him time to manage and make his choices. You do in real life.

To me, a match that closes communication after 7-10 days without a nudge is somewhat revealing. It reveals impatience and someone who is not very understanding. So hence, the guy will not likely request you to reopen the match even when he felt a chemisty there. Are there not enough impatient people in society today that we have to produce more within Eharmony? Where is the harmony in that?
I totally disagree aquaman...With the ease and access everyone has to the internet such as...Blackberry, Iphone, Laptops, Desktops and Wi-Fi EVERYWHERE I think it is sad if you cant take 5 minutes to say "Hey I am interested, however really busy at the moment"... If you are so busy you dont have 5 minutes in a day, you should probably not be wasting your time and money or somebody else’s time by trying to date.
 
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I agree, send a reply of some kind or close the match.......save wasting time.....
 
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