Do guys prefer open & agressive characteristics in women?


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outlaw1 is offline outlaw1 Post #31  July 12,2009, 6:02am

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Brought back from the d e a d? Ah! Run it's the ole one year old OP thread trick. Who'dathunkit? I didn't even look at the date.

Guess I'm Human. Wait a minute, the OP "no longer exists?" Hey!
Was she sent to a FEMA labor camp in Alaska and killed? Btw how do you KNOW she doesn't exist?

You must be a double agent...
 
 
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neardc wrote :
Just noting that this thread was started over a year ago and was brought back from the dead today after being dormant for a very, very long time.

The OP no longer posts here and it's extremely unlikely that she will see any of the responses. Feel free to respond to the general question, but there is no need to direct your response to the OP.
it's probably better that we only give advice to people who will never see it.
 
 
Michael1974 is offline Michael1974 Post #33  July 12,2009, 11:33am
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I prefer open and aggressive women particularly when it comes to making the first move.
 
 
Been_there_b4 is offline Been_there_b4 Post #34  July 12,2009, 12:16pm
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I'm just me all the time. The way I see it , Either you like me or you don't but either way my life will go on like it did before I met you". I control my feelings, I refuse to let anyone take power over my feelings. I say a prayer and turn it all over to God. Life is to short to dwell on what was or what could have been. Time to move on and make new memories.
 
 
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I think that there is such a thing as too agressive and there is such a thing as too shy/passive. To be either is just asking to be dumped. Most men don't react well to being intimidated. Nobody likes having to walk on top of glass when it comes to their mate. Everyone wants someone who will spend time on them. I do not belive that most men would like a mate where they have to proverbially pull the teeth out of to get them to do anything.

I think that it is a great thing that there are more and more women who are willing to be proactive about what they want. We aren't mind readers. There are guys out there who are flexible enough, and probably confident enough to deal with an "aggresive woman." Again just not too agressive.

There are always exceptions though.......

p.s. Ask your male family/friends if you are too "difficult," or you can watch their reactions you being around you
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outlaw1 wrote :
Also, I forgot, beware the men who only want s ex. They will tell you anything to get it. Bottomline, target your search to the type of man you are looking for [yes online women who use a dating website should be searching and initiating many matches a week.]

Good luck women. I don't mean to bash aggressive women. Perhaps it's because I'm aggressive myself and prefer a more introverted woman [or ambivert-half and half.]

In the end, the only thing that matters, is your results. Like looking for a job, online dating requires us all to ocassional stand back, check out what is working and what isn't...and adjust according.

Happy hunting!@
From reading your posts, its no wonder you feel you are the target of parental alienation. I wouldn't let you around my kids either with all that anger.

Take a pill dude!
 
 
dalejrfan88 is offline dalejrfan88 Post #37  August 25,2009, 8:25pm
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Men don't want drama...
Be yourself~if you see something you want,by all means GO FOR IT!!!(o;
 
 
WednesdaysChild is offline WednesdaysChild Post #38  September 15,2011, 11:34am
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Well said Emme.

It's a fine line for sure. I'm not sure how politics has anything to do with what men want/expect. I'm a Bush voting conservative that finds myself completely baffled as to whether I should be aggressive or docile. In non-relationship issues, I totally go for it full-on. But, in a past relationship the guy told me I was needy. So now I have that voice in my head everytime I think I should pick up the phone and make contact with a guy.

Men are as different as the seasons. What works with one isn't going to work with all of them. But, like Emme said, you just really need to be yourself. Do what feels right...The golden rule, Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.....because really, I'm finding that's the ONLY way any of us are ever going to find true compatibility.

I've decided to go after what I want....but not over the top aggressive, maybe assertive, perhaps even "with confidence" is a more appropriate word? If he bails, he's not for me!
 
 
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Wednesday's child...Just FYI but this thread is from 2009...and since you were writing specifically towards those people...they have been long gone from the boards..

You can check the dates of the posts on the top right hand.

Not that some threads don't get resurrected periodically...it's best to start your own thread to talk about subjects so many don't go through pages and pages to get to a new post..
 
 
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Ingytravel wrote :
...Just FYI but this thread is from 2009...
Actually started in 2008! Then resurrected again in 2009...

Ah, the wonderful "similar topics" filter on eHA...
 
 
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