Do guys prefer open & agressive characteristics in women?

I am having a difficult time figuring out what men want. Should women be more willing to take things slowly? Does a women who knows what she wants and conveys it (tactfully) scare men off? In the "real world", I agressively pursue the things I want to accomplish, but online dating has thrown me a curve. Guys, what do you think?

Well, as you said, you're in Tulsa.

I'm in a "mixed" area, as far as the political/religious leanings go. The little town I live in is full of right-wingers and angry fundamentalists, but the university town a few miles away is much more liberal. There are even Unitarians there! [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif[/img] Most of the women I meet there are professionals who are indeed independent and want an egalitarian relationship. In the town where I live and work, not so much.

I am having a difficult time figuring out what men want. Should women be more willing to take things slowly? Does a women who knows what she wants and conveys it (tactfully) scare men off? In the "real world", I agressively pursue the things I want toaccomplish, but online dating has thrown me a curve.Guys, what do you think?

I am having a difficult time figuring out what men want. Should women be more willing to take things slowly? Does a women who knows what she wants and conveys it (tactfully) scare men off? In the "real world", I agressively pursue the things I want toaccomplish, but online dating has thrown me a curve.Guys, what do you think?

I think most men, not all, prefer that a woman be docile, a bit stupid, certainly more stupid than themselves and that they never, never disagree with their man. He has a penis so he must be smart or so he thinks.......

Yes we want the most aggressive, kick em in the n uts, got hair on the chest types?!@ We want our women to be severely demanding who carries a magnum gun on her hip. And uses it if we get out of line...

I'm a little lost per the title of this question hence my attempt per humor. Here's what I've found out to be true-very aggressive women are good in bed. But sooner or later they ALWAYS get mad at the guy. Think end of the relationship mad.

And those type of women that some of us men thought were at first, great in bed, become a roaring Tiger with nails extended, ready to rip for little reason. Now I did say this was MY EXPERIENCE IN LIFE.

This has nothing to do with a strong woman. They can be very se xually attractive. This has nothing to do with a successful woman. Great she's not homeless and has a good job. This has nothing to do with a woman who knows what she wants.
To me it has everything to do with a woman's attitude-is she a team player? Or does she consider herself the Captain of the team, Coach, Mentor and Owner? Am I nothing but an atm?

How would I fit into her life? And does she have the time for me? Or will I always be playing second fiddle to the children, three dogs, one horse, grandparents, two birds and her career?

One reason why I think women online are complaining so much per dating, is that today's women are mostly the complete opposite of women in the 1980s. Most men don't want an aggressive career type woman unless her attitude tells us we aren't just a piece of furniture to her.

As an expert on today's gender relations, a female friend of mine [she's an advocate for women, children and men] says "women want a liberal relationship while men want a conservative one."

And all the men that I know, don't want a too aggressive woman who then becomes his enemy. We call that high maintainence [before she rips our gonads off in Divorce Court.] Please understand I don't mean to sound insensitive. I've seen my brother die while going thru divorce. I almost died going thru divorce [parental alienation.]

What do men want in women today? E Harmony did a poll years ago [it's probably too politically incorrect today.] The #1 thing E Harmony men wanted in a woman, was a kind woman. All those dating articles are lying to ya'll women. Dating articles are telling women to "keep up your standards" and become more difficult.

Meanwhile the brothers are running full speed away from committing to women. Just ask any 100 men offline [online men aren't as truthful, in case they might have a chance to "get some."] We don't want high maintainence, overly aggressive career women who have little to no time for us. Which is the exact opposite of what dating articles tell women [dating articles blow smoke up women's dresses and say men are to blame for today's dating conundrum.]

For me, being a high energy outgoing male, I'd prefer a more subdued, intelligent woman who has time for me in her life. A woman who NEEDS a man as opposed to a woman with the attitude that "I don't need a man." In short, if I smell feminist in any way, I'm out. If she's an aggressive woman at work, I'm out.

That's too high maintainence for me. I'm not interested in daily battles because my vocabulary isn't politically correct, etc. I'm not interested in a power struggle at home; fighting in the office is enough. Might I suggest if you are a high aggresive woman that you seek out a shy beta male?

I don't need a girly girl. I'd prefer a strong intelligent woman. Former tom boy turn more womanly would be perfect. But if she doesn't know the difference between battling while at work, and coming off her warrioress attitude per homelife, then that's the biggest red flag for me. I'll leave her for the younger men [who don't get heart attacks so quickly] to tangle with.

Peace and good luck to you.

PS: how did American women get so manly? I married one of these highly aggressive types. I'm still fighting parental alienation on and off since 1999. Been there, done that and won't do it again.