a80 is offline a80 Post #1  December 18,2008, 4:23am
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My boyfriend's ex is moving in withheand I for an unspecified time period with their physically handicaped child.... from a foreign country. I knew thatthey would be moving here, however I wastold thatthey would be in a different house,and now, due tothe economic situation, the story has changed. I'm a bit devistated and am having ahard time talking about thiswith people I know because it's such an odd situation.A bit of advice, non judgemental, would be fantastic.
 
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Well ...that's going to make for an extremely uncomfortable living situation, that's for sure.


Remember, it's yourresidence too ...and if you don't feel like you can handle the situation as it is being presented, you should speak up and tell your boyfriend the concerns you have (to which, of course, he will reply that there's nothing to worry about ...which isn't even the point). I'mmore concerned that he would even make a decision like that without your input to begin with. At the very least, I'd have some hard and fast boundaries in place ...where are they going to sleep? ...how much 'freedom' will they have in your home? ...and, more importantly, there needs to be a timeline for when they leave.


Ultimately, if he doesn't accept or acknowledge your input, you'll have to decide if that will be someplace you want to continue living ...
 
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