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Learn how to be a dating sleuth! Look for clues to see how well you match up with that potential special someone.
- December 13th, 2008, 12:56 pm
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I agree with this, but it is easier said than done.
- December 13th, 2008, 12:57 pm
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eharmonyadvice, wrote :

Learn how to be a dating sleuth! Look for clues to see how well you match up with that potential special someone.
The thing about EH advice is it's generic in nature. There's no mystery to first dates. Anyone with a "sense" of humanity knows within the first 20 minutes if who they're talking to is going to work out, or they know that they'll want to give the other person another chance so the jitters can calm down.


I personally don't want to have a magnifying glass, a pipe and a hat resembline a sail boat when I'm with someone. I like things to unfold naturally and I also like being surprised. I don't want to do a lot of hair splitting. I want to relax and the more relaxed I am the better I'm able to assess someone without having a list that I need to check off every 5 seconds.
- December 13th, 2008, 05:35 pm
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Songryder wrote :

eharmonyadvice, wrote :


Learn how to be a dating sleuth! Look for clues to see how well you match up with that potential special someone.


The thing about EH advice is it's generic in nature. There's no mystery to first dates. Anyone with a "sense" of humanity knows within the first 20 minutes if who they're talking to is going to work out, or they know that they'll want to give the other person another chance so the jitters can calm down.


I personally don't want to have a magnifying glass, a pipe and a hat resembline a sail boat when I'm with someone. I like things to unfold naturally and I also like being surprised. I don't want to do a lot of hair splitting. I want to relax and the more relaxed I am the better I'm able to assess someone without having a list that I need to check off every 5 seconds.
So in other words, you won't be taking notes and applying deductive logic to everything your date says. And hopefully not have Dr. Watson in tow.
- December 13th, 2008, 06:00 pm
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No one hear since dec 13
- January 29th, 2009, 06:43 pm
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You can always spot a notetaker. Dates resemble job a bad job interview - they want to know all about you and don't want to share much about themselves.
- January 31st, 2009, 11:09 am
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1.i like the information


2.it will help me to be a good partner


3.when a date bombards me with questions, l knows she will be caring


4.paying attention gains maximum information


5.its good to be honest and sensitive.
- February 13th, 2009, 10:50 am
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My question is im not very good at noing for sure if a woman is hitting on me or not most of the time even if it was right in front of my eyes.so what are signs that a woman or your date is frorting with you.Even if i go out to a club or the bar maybe i dont no if they are interested unless they tell me.Also i cannot walk upto people and start a conversation.Especially a woman i could use tips from anyone man or woman.I am pretty shy and havnt been around alot of woman any help would be greatful.Thank you all
- February 19th, 2009, 07:39 pm
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To the person who wrote this article: a lot is always two words.
- March 27th, 2009, 09:15 am
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4ucare wrote :

My question is im not very good at noing for sure if a woman is hitting on me or not most of the time even if it was right in front of my eyes.so what are signs that a woman or your date is frorting with you.Even if i go out to a club or the bar maybe i dont no if they are interested unless they tell me.Also i cannot walk upto people and start a conversation.Especially a woman i could use tips from anyone man or woman.I am pretty shy and havnt been around alot of woman any help would be greatful.Thank you all
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My guess is that you are a foreigner approximately 25 years old without command of the English language. It may serve you well to take a class in Englsih to improve your skills and assimilate into the American society. Check with local community centers or colleges that offer night classes and enroll. Who knows, you might meet a very nice woman there.


P.S. You have at least 19 errors in your post.
- March 27th, 2009, 09:25 am
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