Cage is offline Cage Post #1  December 8,2008, 7:56pm
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Well ill start from the beginning and say that this girl and i had been in a commited relationship for a year and a half. Halfway through the second year we were fighting a lot so i called it off. She begged me everyday and i wasnt convinced. I thought it was just like the aftershock. We remained friends through the whole break. Without me realizing thats 9 months has passed i confessed my love for her on her birthday and got us both tickets to an event. She cried and told me she was done with me. I never saw this coming. Now i want her back. The more time i spend away from her the more i feel she is the better half of me. She is convinced that she wants to move on and has told me that she waited far too long for me. I never realized it was that long because we were stilll hanging out and doing things that couples do just not on a daily basis. I need some advice on what i should do. Ive taken the road that leads me to leave her alone. And give her space, but not too much. But i really want to know if there is anything i could do,
 
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tbesq is offline tbesq Post #2  December 9,2008, 11:09am
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How old are you, just out of curiosity?


Don't let a woman go unless you mean it. If she wants to break up, perform your diligence and fight for her if you feel that strongly about her. If she still turns you down, so be it. But women are just as prideful as men when it comes to being dumped, and you shouldn't be surprised that she's raking you over the coals by not taking you back.


Give it a rest for a while (a considerable time), and if you still have those feelings for her down the line, maybe try again. But learn your lesson from this experience.
 
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Sorry dude.
 
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Songryder is offline Songryder Post #4  December 9,2008, 1:19pm
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Well ill start from the beginning and say that this girl and i had been in a commited relationship for a year and a half. Halfway through the second year we were fighting a lot so i called it off. She begged me everyday and i wasnt convinced. I thought it was just like the aftershock. We remained friends through the whole break. Without me realizing thats 9 months has passed i confessed my love for her on her birthday and got us both tickets to an event. She cried and told me she was done with me. I never saw this coming. Now i want her back. The more time i spend away from her the more i feel she is the better half of me. She is convinced that she wants to move on and has told me that she waited far too long for me. I never realized it was that long because we were stilll hanging out and doing things that couples do just not on a daily basis. I need some advice on what i should do. Ive taken the road that leads me to leave her alone. And give her space, but not too much. But i really want to know if there is anything i could do,
This is difficult. If she is adament about breaking up with you, she may interpret your advances to get her back as stalking her, so be very mindful of this.


I would take her at her word at this point. Stop communicating with her completely and give yourself and her the space you both need to heal, cause being friends isn't working because you don't want her as just a friend and she doesn't want you for a relationship at this point and time . . . it's a bad combination. You're working at opposite purposes.


Let her go for now, as hard as it may be, because if you push her, you'll loose her. Give it 3 or 4 months and pull your life together in the meantime. See how you both feel after a long separation. It's the only way you'll know and you don't want to be with someone who doesn't truly want to be with you. It has to be a two way street, so let her find that out for herself as well.


I'm often torn about a break up I went through, but I absolutely know that this was the wrong guy and as gut wrenching as it was, I got through it. I don't let my feelings for him overshadow my common sense and that's not an easy thing to do for anyone whose been in love, but it's necessary.


Try this and see what happens.
 
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Cage, I agree with songryder. Give her the space with no communication. If it was ment to beshe will came back to u (sometimes love is better the 2nd. time around any way). If not let it be.
 
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