I want to spend Christmas with my boyfriend. Too much to ask!?


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Doctora2012 is offline Doctora2012 Post #21  December 5,2008, 1:45pm
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Be careful. I agree with earlier posts -- you really may be asking too much of this guy.


I totally understand that he's your boyfriend, but this still doesn't mean that he should be willing to sacrifice tradition and not spend christmas eve/day with his parents.


Are you two as serious as you think you are? I'd probably have the same expectation as you, but only if we were married or engaged (even then, it'd be more of a compromise that we'd need to reach rather than expect him to sacrifice something for my sake).


It may be worth trying to understand where he's coming from and, more importantly, where you two stand. In my honest opinion, if I were the guy, your reaction would've raised a red flag for me and I may have run the other way....especially if I weren't at the point where I was willing to commit. Guys will totally go out of their way to spend time with their significant other (regardless of the holiday), if it's what they *truly* want to do.





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I don't know if we posted at the same time, but I wrote above your post that he did agree to stay the night. He says it is what he wants to do....now. I totally know where you are coming from regarding 'if hes into you'. I agree and it's part of the reason we broke up. I told him I just don't feel he's into me and he came back saying he missed me and realized how much he loved me when I was gone. So, he says hes into me, acts like it most of the time. We will see how it pans out.


Thanks to everyone for their advice and help on this.
 
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