JstGrl is offline JstGrl Post #1  November 29,2008, 7:53pm
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My boyfriend or maybe ex seems to make decisions on a whim, very implusive. Hesalways breaking things off even though he says his feelings hasnt changed.In fact, in a couple of occasions he's actually broken up w/ me via text and refuse to talk about it over the phone or in person.And its usually because of some miscommunication via text.


The last time he broke it off was again via text and refuse to talk but then said we'll work it out and let's meet the following day (all via text). The following day, I called to confirm the time we'll meet up but he never called back. I've already assumed that we're done even though it wasnt actually official. Is that a safe assumption?
 
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Immerito is offline Immerito Post #2  November 29,2008, 8:18pm
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It sounds like, in his mind, you both are 'done' until he changes his mind again.


He must be either young or fickle, or both. Move on, unless you enjoy the game-playing in which you are currently engaged.
 
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He sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. I don't see long term potential as it's a repeated pattern of behavior. He could change his mind or not...his heart just isn't into talking things through which is an essential part of solving problems.


Impulsive behavior regarding someone's feelings isn't a good sign...you are worth more no matter what he decides this time.
 
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Nicomacheus is offline Nicomacheus Post #4  November 29,2008, 9:41pm
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To assume or not to assume, that is the question. Text messagesused as ameans to "break it off"? Is this guy in seventh or eighth grade? No matter how young you are, you're notgetting any younger (and you never will).


By the way he's being described here it is likely the case that he needs to have a realman "reason" with him with regard to a whole lot of things. Of course, perhaps he's immune to any correction or advice, which is a distinct possibility (sinceseventh and eighth graders usually are).


Get a real life and get rid of him, the sooner the very much better.
 
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LisaRey is offline LisaRey Post #5  November 29,2008, 10:13pm
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It's all over but the crying.
 
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I will not put up with the on-again off-again stuff.


If it is that hard to get along, then I'm out. Fighting should be rare.
 
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lucky173 is offline lucky173 Post #7  November 30,2008, 5:31am
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Don't make assumptions.


Decided for yourself what kind of relationship YOU want, need and deserve.


If this is an example of it, then wait around till he txts back up again.


If it's not, then YOU decide that it's over for you. And move on.


It will only keep being like this for as long as you allow it to be like this.
 
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LisaRey,364294 wrote :

It's all over but the crying.
That's exactly what Ben E King said when the Beatles came to the US for the first time.
 
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