Why do women like handsome guys is an equally fair/unfair question. I myself am attracted to curvy women and "muffen tops" can even be a turnon. I have no solid answer as to why different men like what we like but I wouldn't lump us all into the same category. One thing I've learned recently is that no matter how hard I try and no matter how much easier it would make things I can't treat all women as if they are the same. It works both ways. Maybe you've just had a run of guys not attracted to your particular body type. There are those like me out there and plenty. All aspects of a person are spokes on a wheel. The physical often gets demonized as illustrated by at least on of your commentatores I read above. All aspects that attract a person have to be present. It's not fair to ask someone to deny what they find attractive in favor of simply settling for someone they don't find attractive. It's not a personal vendetta. Remember, us guys are trying to find satisfaction just as much as you girls are. Hope this helps

I am active. I run and ride a bicycle and I work out a couple of days a week at the gym. I do that because it is important to me to stay fit and healthy. I am not necessarily into thin women but I am interested in a woman who is also active and in good physical condition. While this is a generality, I would argue that someone who is 30 pounds overweight is probably not into the same lifestyle as myself. The converse may not be true in that being thin is no guarantee that a person is physically active but it is far more likely.

I would also point out that while women may not be as particular about a guy’s weight, I would argue that, all things being equal, they seem much more attracted to the guy with a fat bank account.

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I am a guy and I call tell you why I am more attracted to thin women but other men might have different reasons. I am attracted to women that have an athletic build (thin but defined). It is not the physical aspect of it that I am attracted to but to me it shows that they care about their health and don't take it for granted. I don't feel that way towards women that are out of shape and above a healthy weight for their size.

When I was younger, I was size 8-10 and had a very good figure. The girlfriends of men I dated or involved with me would always make snotty comments like "I'll lose the weight and be a Skinny Minnie." They clearly considered themselves better looking and thought the guy(s) was with me just because I was thin. True, I was thin - maybe not by model standards - but not grossly or noticeably overweight. I also had a very good figure, something catty women tend to ignore when they think of women as either thin or fat. There are heavier women who are curvy and thin women with no curves. I have to say, I really resented the attitudes of overweight women who'd carry on like beauty queens and I was some kind of inferior being that men were juwt dating due to being thin. Now I am older and I packed on some weight. Apart from being older, which also makes women less attractive to men (even older ones), most men are just not that attracted to heavier women. That is the way it is. Many are, but most are not. You will rarely see a man who is status conscious, for instance, around a fat or overweight woman. Everyone knows it is desirable to be thin and it is something that a person has more control over than their facial features. People can lose weight. Overweight people not only are often more unattractive for their excess weight, but it also shows a poor self image to meny people. Why would someone knowingly let themselves get fat when it is so known that this is not desirable? This apart from health risks and so on. Not only that, the nicer clothes are made for thinner people. I hope I can lose this extra weight and get back to being thin again. I might wish I was prettier or younger, but there is not a lot I can do about that - or not so easily as lose weight, anyway. By the way, who really finds a fat man to be attractive? Since there is more competition for men, they can get away with it more easily. But mostly, they are not so attractive either. And this talking from first impressions, not for people who have been together years and can see each other's 'inner beauty'. Unfortunately, when first meeting, appearances count for a lot. That is just the way it is - like it or not. If you choose food over making yourself more attractive so as to attract a new man into your life, that is your choice, unless you have some uncontrollable medical condition.

Why? Well there's actually some science behind it. Its been determined that the women with the ideal dimensionsare also the most fertile and healthy. So it goes back to carrying on the species. And the ideal dimensions are not anorexic. There's a ratio, 7/10 waist to hips.


Now yeah, most guys don't find 30lbs overweight to be attractive, so you have to lower your standards a little. There's a lot of overweight guys out there too and despite what you see on tv, most of them aren't dating swimsuit models.

Lillolme, rest assured there are men out there who don't judge by looks and will be happy to have a woman like you. I know exactly how you feel. I've been hurt too many times by women who judge me by my looks before seeing my heart. I've met two women who aren't thin, but they have a shining inner beauty. My first love was a gal from my high school class who was no "Barbie", but I didn't see her that way. I don't know how to describe her sense of humor, but it showed in almost everything she said to me or to others. She has a beautiful voice and loves to sing. She shared a lot of my interests such as travel and board and card games. I'm sorry to see her marry someone else, but she did lay the foundation of what I should look for in a woman. Several months ago, I met another obese woman who also loves to sing, loves to do painting, and has a very strong bond with her family and friends. I didn't expect her to play a practical joke on me and I thought that it was a wonderful experience. She surprised me with her sensibility and engaged me in friendly debates. As I progress on my search for the right woman to be my wife, I will continue to meet people who have qualities that I have not even thought of yet. I no longer care about how a woman's figure looks as long as I see their inner beauty as I had described above. Wait and be patient - there is a man out there who will be very happy to have you.

To easily offended....Thirty pounds of excess weight is not "obese", it's over- what's considered normal- weight and is heavy compared to Barbie. Barbie -the doll whose chest was solarge as to be considered disproportionate with the rest of her (not considered normal).Most "normal" women are a little heavier thanmodel thin and are notBarbie-built. Some women consider men who are only interested in looks such asmodel thin orBarbie built to be "toads" since they don't bother to look past the outside to the inside and often judge by unfair and unrealistic standards set by a society that is harsh on women and their looks - she isn't referring to the woman when she wrote toad! LOLShe meant bad as in unfair. And yes, she acknowledged that we know there are some women like that too! I believe there is no normal.


Those that can't appreciate her for who she is,don't deserve to be graced with her presence and aren't the type she would want anyway. I also find on-line dating extremely looks-oriented since our voices, personalities and body language are lacking with onlya photo and a few typed wordsin their place. It's not the best case scenario andI appreciate herfrustration.