melita2008 is offline melita2008 Post #1  September 20,2008, 2:00pm
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I met this guy a few weeks ago through a freind of mine (he is her roomate). Well things are going alright,except for the fact that I keep doubting that he really likes me. I read the top ten things that he is into me and most of them are right, but im hindered by the fact that when we hung out the second night he said that he "avoids" long term relationships. We have hung out a few times and most of the top ten points on the list are right and i remember he said subtlely that I was his girlfriend (but he might of been joking). I'm just really confused and I've been hurt in the past and don't want to be again and im afraid of bringing it up to him because im afraid i might push him away. plz help me with my dilemma.
 
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My advice, stop reading every little thing into every little thing he says. It's only been 'a few weeks' ...wow, way too early to be fretting over the kind of stuff you are fretting over. What happened to having fun?


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melita2008, wrote :

I met this guy a few weeks ago through a freind of mine (he is her roomate). Well things are going alright,except for the fact that I keep doubting that he really likes me. I read the top ten things that he is into me and most of them are right, but im hindered by the fact that when we hung out the second night he said that he "avoids" long term relationships. We have hung out a few times and most of the top ten points on the list are right and i remember he said subtlely that I was his girlfriend (but he might of been joking). I'm just really confused and I've been hurt in the past and don't want to be again and im afraid of bringing it up to him because im afraid i might push him away. plz help me with my dilemma.
He "avoids" long term relationships . . . he said that clearly and not under his breath. Okay, so that would be a red flag if you're looking for an LTR.


I'd say he's already pushing you away by virtue of the fact that he said he avoids LTR's. He may have a lot of the things that indicate he's into you, but make sure you aren't projecting those things onto him because of what you want, not what's going on over on his side of the fence.


If you're even afraid to communicate how you feel for fear he'll be a "flight risk" then the communication is already murky. I hate to be the fly in the soup here, but you need to start listening to the "obvious" communications. He may have a lot of qualities you like but . . .
 
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Sarah is offline Sarah Post #4  September 25,2008, 7:28am
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Is this poster for real or is it a fake troll? Just wondering.
 
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