Is Your Friend Really a "Frenemy"?

Is Your Friend Really a 'Frenemy'?

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Is Your Friend Really a 'Frenemy'?


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BlackberryAddict is offline BlackberryAddict Post #91  January 31,2009, 8:23am
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goolagang123,462784 wrote :
lacedwithhope,268801 wrote :

What's that expression about 'keeping your friends close, and your enemies closer"* ?


Maybe that applies here.* But, I think I'd keep a known 'frenemy' at arm's distance.* [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-smile.gif[/img]
I agree keep a fremeny at an arm's distance, but I say keep them.* Frememies when kept in their proper places can actually be helpful.* Ask them for their advice and then do the exact opposite!!!!*


If she says your boyfriend is a loser and drop him, hang on to him with all your might!!!
I don't play those games, I put them out of my life forever. I don't surround myself with people who are not 'for' me, because I am there 'for' them. That doesn't mean we're in 100% agreement all the time, but when I ask a question I expect an honest answer and vice versa. If a friend says 'you really shouldn't wear that, it doesn't look good on you' (and I have guy friends who will say that, and no, they're not @ay) not only do I not wear it but it goes into the giveaway bag. When my friends want a truthful answer they come to me. I don't play the "oh poor baby" routine if someone is repeating the same destructive behaviours and expecting a different outcome. Real friends are truthful with you. Don't surround yourself with those who are not truthful to you, whatever their reasons (looking to destroy you, just a hanger-on 'yes' man/woman).
 
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ManekiNeko is offline ManekiNeko Post #92  January 31,2009, 3:43pm
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goolagang123,462788 wrote :

ManekiNeko we all have friends that say things about us when we are not in their company. However you should hear what YOU are saying. It sounds like YOU are the one that has decided that the women are not going to be interested in you even before the date gets started.

They aren't. News flash: There are winners and losers in life. it's determined before you're born, just like your eye color, hair color and gender.


>Try this for a change, get a date and tell NO ONE.See how far it goes, when you feel like the woman you are dating is on solid ground with you, share your feelings about some of your friends. Get her perpared for some of their behavior. I'm just saying don't blame it all onyour friends because it sounds like you may have a hand in some of the problem too.<

 When women start dating losers, I'll try it.
 
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mb45shaw is offline mb45shaw Post #93  June 14,2011, 9:33am
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Hey I have been searching a long time to find the frenemy. I have had a neighbor who was my close friend for 11 years until the frenemy moved in. I knew when I first met the frenemy she was trouble. We all love horses and my friend and I would ride on several occassions. Her daughters were always involved in the queeen Rodeo Pagents and I would help every year. Doing makeup and hair getting horses ready for the event. I have been pushed out of this now by the frenemy. Anyway first off the frenemy wanted to loan my friend money for a down payment on a horse. They were only friends for a very short time first red flag!! I did not like this women from the begginning. I tried to warn my friend about her she would not listen. She started doing stuff to get rid of me. She told my friend my daughter yelled at her on the phone one day. The war was on. Again tried to warn my friend about this women. She just think she is wonderful but at the same time she knows she is controlling and obssesive with her. So she tells me the frenemy has bi-polar issues. Ya right!! This women knows exactly what she is doing. So this has gone on for about 4 or 5 years now. I have made up with the frenemy so I could be at peace about it. She is still pulling crap to this day. I have finally decided to take myself out of the picture. Eventually the monster will rears its ugly head. I hope. I had gotten a new horse last year and they said they would invite me but it has not happened. The other day my friend and I got into again about this frenemy and she would not listen. She had the nerve to make me feel guilty because the frenemy let my daughter ride her horse. She is manipulative and a good con artist. They are trouble making people and then set back and watch the fireworks. They are good at what they do. It is weird this frenemy has no other friends but my friends, another red flag. I have had my feelings hurt. I cant wait for my friend to be on the other end and I will say I told you so. Thanks reading these puts this all in prospective.
 
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