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Long before you were born, Mom was out playing the dating game. See how the rules have changed since your mother was looking for Mr. Right.
- September 6th, 2008, 09:43 pm
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I completely disagree with "You can make the first move." I am a very traditional woman in that aspect and do not believe it works when women make the first move. The guy may THINK he enjoys when a woman makes the first move, but at the end of the day, they don't. It is in their nature to "hunt" and go after what they want. This is what drives them. I always let men come after me and it works best. If I went after a man, I would feel uncomfortable. And most women want to know that someone chased after them and took the time and effort to come after them. Let's try to keep some traditonal roles, traditional. All of this modern -- women can be everything stuff is getting really out of hand. We deserve to be courted and men should work for us!
- September 7th, 2008, 09:20 am
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In theory thisisgreat advice - in fact most men in my age group (50s - 60s) seem to prefer the traditional roles.. They want to think they are liberated, but really seem to enjoy being in charge etc.
- September 7th, 2008, 06:01 pm
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I totally disagree with the traditional role. For years most women have agreed with feminists that a woman can do anything a man can physically and socially. I have more respect towards a woman who makes the first move than a woman who expects anything. You think men don't have it hard making the first move? There are obvious signs that a woman can give to a guy and vice-versa if both are attracted to each other. Once the signs have been recieved by both, it doesn't matter who makes the first attempt to talk; it comes naturally.


So, to say men should make the first move,is to say,"I'm very insecure and cowardly." This is coming from a female friend of mine.
- September 7th, 2008, 11:34 pm
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Allowing the man to make the first move has absolutely nothing to do with insecurity or cowardness on the woman's part. It is all a matter of what is comfortable for the woman. A lot of things are hard in life. That doesn't mean that men shouldn't have to work through it. Do you think giving birth is easy?
- September 8th, 2008, 09:16 am
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I totally disagree with you you goodadvice. Of course, it is more comfortable if you get to choose whats in front of you. Its comfortable to know someone is ALREADY interested in you. Its comfortable to make a choice of yes and no when you are being asked.


I've known many people with your same attitude and they're always questioning themselves on why no guys approach them. When i tell them that maybe the should be more proactive, they scoff at me and give me this traditional tripe. These are the same people, who don't want to go to bars because "these losers keep hitting on me". It makes no sense.
- September 8th, 2008, 09:30 am
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I've asked many guys how they feel about women approaching them. Most of them say that they like doing the pursuing. It is all a matter of what works for each person. If a woman wants to go out there and approach men and it works for her, then so be it. It usually sets a tone for the man to not to have to work hard throughout the relationship. Men ask me out. Men approach me. Men work for me. That has been my experience and that is what I am most comfortable with. I am always friendly and make sure I am approachable. That is all I think a woman has to do. The rest is up to the man.
- September 8th, 2008, 12:55 pm
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goodadvice wrote :

I completely disagree with "You can make the first move." I am a very traditional woman in that aspect and do not believe it works when women make the first move. The guy may THINK he enjoys when a woman makes the first move, but at the end of the day, they don't. It is in their nature to "hunt" and go after what they want. This is what drives them. I always let men come after me and it works best. If I went after a man, I would feel uncomfortable. And most women want to know that someone chased after them and took the time and effort to come after them. Let's try to keep some traditonal roles, traditional. All of this modern -- women can be everything stuff is getting really out of hand. We deserve to be courted and men should work for us!
Gotta disagree. I am sick unto death of 'the hunt' as it were. All it has gotten me is a lifetime's worth of emotional bruises. I'm done with it.
- September 8th, 2008, 01:08 pm
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Dafearon wrote :

I totally disagree with you you goodadvice. Of course, it is more comfortable if you get to choose whats in front of you. Its comfortable to know someone is ALREADY interested in you. Its comfortable to make a choice of yes and no when you are being asked.


I've known many people with your same attitude and they're always questioning themselves on why no guys approach them. When i tell them that maybe the should be more proactive, they scoff at me and give me this traditional tripe. These are the same people, who don't want to go to bars because "these losers keep hitting on me". It makes no sense.
"These are the same people, who don't want to go to bars because "these losers keep hitting on me". It makes no sense."


Exactly...and the losers in the bar's also have online accounts.
- September 8th, 2008, 03:45 pm
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talonfinite wrote :

Dafearon wrote :


I totally disagree with you you goodadvice. Of course, it is more comfortable if you get to choose whats in front of you. Its comfortable to know someone is ALREADY interested in you. Its comfortable to make a choice of yes and no when you are being asked.


I've known many people with your same attitude and they're always questioning themselves on why no guys approach them. When i tell them that maybe the should be more proactive, they scoff at me and give me this traditional tripe. These are the same people, who don't want to go to bars because "these losers keep hitting on me". It makes no sense.


"These are the same people, who don't want to go to bars because "these losers keep hitting on me". It makes no sense."


Exactly...and the losers in the bar's also have online accounts.
Gee, My online account keeps me out of the bars!
- September 8th, 2008, 06:42 pm
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