5 Tips for Spotting a Con Man

5 Tips for Spotting a Con Man

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The vast majority of people you meet online are honest and well-meaning, but there are a few nefarious con men (and women) trolling the Internet looking to scam money. Here's what you need to know to avoid becoming a victim.
 
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The eH mensas must have been reading these advice boards.
 
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Wow, this is actually the most correct, honest and blunt article that EH has posted on Advice.


This is a post/thread that should be a "Sticky", if EH Advice had such a thing, because its SO important!
 
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Very good advice!
 
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Why would anyone ever be foolish enough to give someone money... or any type of pesonal account info, ie; banking, ssn, etc.????????

I'm sorry that people even need to be warned or reminded of how foolish this is.

Forget trying to decipher whether someone is "too good to be true". Regardless of how charming (on not) one may be.... anyone who would give out such info, or lend/give money, ought to have his/her head examined. LORDY!!!!
 
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There are various forms of con men(women).The "desperately have a crush on you and need your help" type,the "flatter you until you can't say no to them" type, and the "get to know your weaknesses and exploit them" type.I have seen them all and sometimes met them.The sure sign that someone is a con job is that the moment you confront their behavior with you asUNUSUAL they will become defensive and probably angry.It never fails.Most con jobs are weak and immature.They count on you seeing them as savy and them seeing you as stupid.


I gather most of us have had an experience or two with the conjob person.Just for clarification,they are also known as sociopaths.No remorse for harm done,they will hurt you and immediately leave you.RUN as fast as you can from any signs that someone is asking for money and or "working you" to gain your trust! Remember that people like this rationalize what they do and use one person after another,without concern.They would apply the principle that "it's a dog eat dog world so why shouldn't I take what I can." They think everyone does the same.Not all of us choose to use each other.


Good article.It's about time someone addressed this issue.It is a growing problem.
 
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Twice (on a different online dating site) I was contactedby a stunning, young gal implying interest in a relationship and of course, they lived on the other side of the country. Both times I thought I would have some fun and I replied "so how much is this going to cost me?" Of course,in each case therewasn't a response. Anyway, e-Harmony's matching methods make this kind of contact much more unlikely but you never know and there is nothing wrong with beingat first just alittle cautious even if asking for money/personal information never comes up.
 
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Great advice. The only thing I'd quibble with is encouraging being suspicious of an early-stage request to exchange phone numbers.Advice'sstaff needs to join eH, andaccess and manage their accounts from outside eH's network, to fully appreciate how often the desire tospeed things up has less to do with anything suspicious thanwith the site's ongoing and very frustrating technical problems.


As soon as I get to OC, Iaskmatches if they're willing to exchange personal email addies and phone numbers because of the hassle-factor involved in communicating via eH.They've all said "You bet!",having struggled with their share of glitches, too. In the past month, four of my matches have quit over it. For lack oftime and patience to deal with it, but also loss ofconfidence in the matching process. As one said, "If they can't run a Web site, I have to wonder what else is FUBAR'd".


So, while I'm all for using instincts and common sense,online and off, eH couldgreatly enhanceusers' perceptions of what is or isn't "too fast" by enhancing the .com part of the experience.
 
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eharmonyadvice, wrote :

The vast majority of people you meet online are honest and well-meaning, but there are a few nefarious con men (and women) trolling the Internet looking to scam money. Here's what you need to know to avoid becoming a victim.
Unfortunately, they exist in both sexes inside and outside of EH. People desperate for love are excellent Targets and God help them because they're not really looking for possible red flags, they just want someone. I just heard a story from a friend of mine whose brother got ripped off by the gal he married after only knowing her a few months. She took his car to another state, and emptied out his bank accounts. . . then he found out she was still married to her first husband when he married her!! Unbelievable!
 
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Don't forget another sign is scammers don't care how far away from them that you live or how old you are. On other dating sites where you can see their perferred age range and distance willing to travel this is more apparent.
 
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