SHE WANTS YOU TO BE TRUSTING , WHAT DOES THIS MEAN???


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JustJames is offline JustJames Post #11  August 14,2008, 4:34pm
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Steventhetravler, wrote :

SEVERAL MATCHES HAVE LISTED "TRUSTING" AS THE MOST IMPORTANT ATTRIBUTE THEY ARE LOOKING FOR IN A MAN......SO, WHAT DOES THIS TELL YOU????


MY FIRST GUESS IS,.... THEY AREPROBABLY A VERY UNTRUSTING PERSON THEMSELVES AND THEY REALLY WANT TO BE SUPER CAREFULL ABOUT THE NEXT DATE/GUY. HOWEVER, IT COULD BE ALOT MORE COMPLICATED THAN THAT. FOR EXAMPLE, THIS MAY BE A PERSON WHO IS USING EH, ANDLOOKING ALLOVER THE COUNTRY FOR SOMEONE TO FALL IN LOVE WITH, BUTSHE IS TELLING YOUHER PLAN IS TO DATE FOR MONTHS TO ESTABLISH A TRUST LEVEL, BEFORE EVEN THINKING OF SHARING A BED WITH HER MATCH. IT DON'T MATTER TO HER THAT SHE'S BEEN MARRIED 4 TIMES, HAS HAD MORE THAN DOUBLE YOUR LAYS, OR THAT YOUR 4 STATES AWAY. SHE WANTS YOU TO KNOW UP FRONT... SHE WANTS YOU TO BE TRUSTING.


WHAT'S GOING ON HERE??? THINK ABOUT IT, COULD THIS ATTRACTIVE MATCH BE OFF HER MEDICATION??? WHEN I WORKED IN THE PSYH. HOSPITAL, THE DOCTORS WOULD REMIND ME IF I COULDEN'T ESTABLISH A TRUST WITH A PATIENT WITHIN 5 TO 7 MINUTES, BACK OFF, AND LET THE MEDICINE WORK, A FEW MORE DAYS. I'M A NURSE WHO DISPENSES MEDICATION, NOT IN A PSYH. HOSPITALANY MORE, AND YOU WOULD NOT BELIEVEHOW MANY WOMEN ARE ON MEDICATION, THAT INVOLVES, OR INFLUENCES THEIR LEVEL OF TRUST. IT IS A WAY LARGER PERCENTAGE THAN ANY LAYMAN MIGHT BELIEVE.


SO, HOW DO WE HANDLE THIS 'TRUST' SITUATION WHEN IT JUST COULD BE, HER TRUST HANG UP???? IT MAY BE SHE IS TRYING TO COVER UP OR DISCISE HER PROBLEM. HOW ARE WE GOING TO KNOW???


I WOULD BE INTERESTED IN YOUR COMENTS, BOTH MALE AND FEMALE.
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In my opinion the whole matter of trust is simple yet fragile... I mean If you desire trust you have to be willing to give more of it than your partner does. True some girls are out there for themselves. Too see what they can gain without giving, You seerm like you are an experienced dater so forgive my review of the facts. In my own search I've found that relationships should be based on the fundamentals. I do believe that the meaning of a relationship with the opposite sex has trust at it's core. If she can't trust you but refuses to let you trust her then where is the relationship.





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Steventhetravler, wrote :

SEVERAL MATCHES HAVE LISTED "TRUSTING" AS THE MOST IMPORTANT ATTRIBUTE THEY ARE LOOKING FOR IN A MAN......SO, WHAT DOES THIS TELL YOU????
It's code for "I need someone I can use and abuse."
 
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My guess is that they're trying to sniff out the jealous type. As a friend of mine once said "there's a special place in Hell reserved for the jealous boyfriend/girlfriend". I concur.
 
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Steventhetravler, wrote :

SEVERAL MATCHES HAVE LISTED "TRUSTING" AS THE MOST IMPORTANT ATTRIBUTE THEY ARE LOOKING FOR IN A MAN......SO, WHAT DOES THIS TELL YOU????


MY FIRST GUESS IS,.... THEY AREPROBABLY A VERY UNTRUSTING PERSON THEMSELVES AND THEY REALLY WANT TO BE SUPER CAREFULL ABOUT THE NEXT DATE/GUY. HOWEVER, IT COULD BE ALOT MORE COMPLICATED THAN THAT. FOR EXAMPLE, THIS MAY BE A PERSON WHO IS USING EH, ANDLOOKING ALLOVER THE COUNTRY FOR SOMEONE TO FALL IN LOVE WITH, BUTSHE IS TELLING YOUHER PLAN IS TO DATE FOR MONTHS TO ESTABLISH A TRUST LEVEL, BEFORE EVEN THINKING OF SHARING A BED WITH HER MATCH. IT DON'T MATTER TO HER THAT SHE'S BEEN MARRIED 4 TIMES, HAS HAD MORE THAN DOUBLE YOUR LAYS, OR THAT YOUR 4 STATES AWAY. SHE WANTS YOU TO KNOW UP FRONT... SHE WANTS YOU TO BE TRUSTING.


WHAT'S GOING ON HERE??? THINK ABOUT IT, COULD THIS ATTRACTIVE MATCH BE OFF HER MEDICATION??? WHEN I WORKED IN THE PSYH. HOSPITAL, THE DOCTORS WOULD REMIND ME IF I COULDEN'T ESTABLISH A TRUST WITH A PATIENT WITHIN 5 TO 7 MINUTES, BACK OFF, AND LET THE MEDICINE WORK, A FEW MORE DAYS. I'M A NURSE WHO DISPENSES MEDICATION, NOT IN A PSYH. HOSPITALANY MORE, AND YOU WOULD NOT BELIEVEHOW MANY WOMEN ARE ON MEDICATION, THAT INVOLVES, OR INFLUENCES THEIR LEVEL OF TRUST. IT IS A WAY LARGER PERCENTAGE THAN ANY LAYMAN MIGHT BELIEVE.


SO, HOW DO WE HANDLE THIS 'TRUST' SITUATION WHEN IT JUST COULD BE, HER TRUST HANG UP???? IT MAY BE SHE IS TRYING TO COVER UP OR DISCISE HER PROBLEM. HOW ARE WE GOING TO KNOW???


I WOULD BE INTERESTED IN YOUR COMENTS, BOTH MALE AND FEMALE.
it tells me they are not looking for people who are excessively jealous or possesive. you know the type-always snooping, checking up on you, try to control where you go, what you you do, who you talk to.
 
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