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Right on that comment on moaning and groaning and all the right touches is the key to a very sexual relationship. I also agree with communciation does help but do thatway before you do have encounter that sexual desire with your mate.
- February 12th, 2008, 12:01 pm
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It is absolutely imperative that couples are comfortable enough to discuss what makes them happy and what makes themuncomfortable during intimate times. Without conversation, you cannot hold your partner responsible for an unsatisfying experience, as some people might. None of us are mindreaders. TALK to each other. Sex should be a blending ofenergized emotions that each person has for the other. It should be one of the highest expressions of your love.
- February 12th, 2008, 03:26 pm
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Just goes to show you, it is "buyer beware" whether it is a church, christian organization, workplace, college, or "christian" dating service, that is no guarantee that everyone involved is living right and trustworthy, or wholeheartedly following the Lord.That's not to say that there are not some pretty awesome rock solid christian organizations, But just that people are people and must be treated as individuals in any group or organization, so don't be discouraged cu_isus, just encouraged to continue to be discerning in every walk of life where you find yourself or even are led by the Lord. I met my husband here and he is a stronger more committed Christian man than I had met anywhere else, but we both definitely did our weeding out and used every bit of wisdom and discernment within ourselves and our friends and families to make sure we were making a wise choice. We really checked each other out thoroughly, right down to requiring personal references and making phone calls, because we came from different sides of the country
- February 12th, 2008, 04:32 pm
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I agree with happycamper08. I had the very same experience with my recent ex-wife. I wish she would have read this article a long time ago. In particular, paragraph 2 of the second C. Her perspective was that she could not have sex if "she felt" I was not emotionally there for her. Believe it or not that was sometimes for 6 to 12 months at a time. What an idiot I was. Even when I attempted thesimplestphysical action, I was deemed a pervert. Truly looking forward to a normal relationship sometime in the future.
- February 12th, 2008, 04:57 pm
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The highest expression of love is giving up one's own rights for the one you love - ie you would not partake of sexual pleasures with their bodyunless you have first given them the protection of lifelong commitment, evidenced by a marriage covenant before God, as this is the only way not to damage the spirit and soul of the other person
- February 12th, 2008, 05:41 pm
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Promise wrote :
The highest expression of love is giving up one's own rights for the one you love - ie you would not partake of sexual pleasures with their body unless you have first given them the protection of lifelong commitment, evidenced by a marriage covenant before God, as this is the only way not to damage the spirit and soul of the other person
Amen amen!And then in marriage be total gifts to/for the other, not selfish. Beauty.
- February 12th, 2008, 08:14 pm
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Does begging qualify as communication. I suppose it should start with a date but since there is a cold war happening on e Harmony there is a snowball in hell chance of that ever happening here.
- February 12th, 2008, 09:01 pm
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For being a "christian dating site", there are an awful lot of subjects that could be covered before offering suggestions on pre-marital sex..... besides, sex is only as good for the long haul as the rest of the relationship. Mechanical sexual problemscan be fixed, it's usually the emotional component that aredifficult..... trust, communicationetc. If there are problems with sex, the experts sayit's usually something outside the bedroom that needs work... Spiritual, emotional, etc.
- February 13th, 2008, 06:37 am
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xy52 wrote :
I don't know about you guys, but the communication can be passed thru moans and body language if verbal doesn't work for you. A touch and a moan means she liked it. A touch and a loud moan means she really liked it... a touch and.... you get it!It works the other way too... a touch and a subtle pulling away says a lot too. Everyone is different but in a sexual way, touches and listening/watching go a long way!
Right on!!!! I like the way you think.
- February 13th, 2008, 05:42 pm
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foxlamb wrote :
While I agree completely regarding communication and intimacy, several woman I have dated clearly expressed being uncomfortable talking directly about sexual preferences, especially during sex. Their expectation, it would seem, is that as the male, "active" partner I should be able to take the intiative and read their likes and dislikes without asking. As crazy as this sounds I suspect this expectation of men, conscious or not, is fairly prevalent.
You do have a point. I feel this way somewhat, even though my logic tells me it's not fair to expect the man to know what I like/don't without telling/showing him. I am a little uncomfortable talking about what I like and don't like, guess that's something to work on.
- February 13th, 2008, 05:47 pm
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