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metalsmike is offline metalsmike Post #11  August 14,2008, 6:12am
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I was hoping to get more information on what exactly is a sign and what it means, as I am completely unable to pick up on anything like that. I don't even get flirts. It's not uncommon that someone who I had spoken with and been friends with for a while will contact me after we've moved away from each other later on to tell me they had been flirting with me and were interested. This causes the usual DOH, Hand to face reaction. But seriously, I'd need to get beaten within an inch of my life with the obvious stick to get most of this stuff anyways.

And in response to the last couple posts here, I haven't even met anyone yet. I am a nice guy too, often called "too nice" which is not possible, but usually means you don't move forward fast enough or your fears that you might be pushing them too fast keep you from acting. I'm however not going to let it demotivate me. I have learned over the years to become very self sufficient and that I dont NEED anyone to be happy. However, I'm on here to find someone to spend the rest of my life with, only if they are the one, and not just the one who answers.
 
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I was hoping to get more information on what exactly is a sign and what it means, as I am completely unable to pick up on anything like that. I don't even get flirts. It's not uncommon that someone who I had spoken with and been friends with for a while will contact me after we've moved away from each other later on to tell me they had been flirting with me and were interested. This causes the usual DOH, Hand to face reaction. But seriously, I'd need to get beaten within an inch of my life with the obvious stick to get most of this stuff anyways.

And in response to the last couple posts here, I haven't even met anyone yet. I am a nice guy too, often called "too nice" which is not possible, but usually means you don't move forward fast enough or your fears that you might be pushing them too fast keep you from acting. I'm however not going to let it demotivate me. I have learned over the years to become very self sufficient and that I dont NEED anyone to be happy. However, I'm on here to find someone to spend the rest of my life with, only if they are the one, and not just the one who answers.
 
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FrankDrebin,197926 wrote :

The wrong ones I guess. Out of 215 matches, I only made it to open communication with 3, and only met 1. The one I met, it was obvious to both of us that we weren't right for each other, the match was closed the next day.


Most of my matches just ignore me and never respond.


I asked if I could redo the origional questions, or if eH could do something to change the type of women I'm being matched with, but I got a packaged response full of the 29 demensions bs.


I was honest when I did the questions.


I do tend to be a little dry and to the point when communicating with a stranger over the internet. I am more of an in person type. I find I have writers block when it comes to asking questions to a stranger. It's easier in person or over the phone.


I am a good man! But I am unable to show it. I guess I have to compete with all the other guys throwing out game and bullshit. I can't believe some of the crap I overhear guys say to women in the bar, and they buy it.


Nice guys do finish last, I think need to find a way to become a full ofbs a-hole.
Honestly I think you're way over thinking it. A profile and/or the stages are not a confession, not a background check,not anjob interview,not a guarantee. To me it's all just a guided process toMEET some people. Once you arrive at the end of the eH process, you've simply met, that's it. Personally I prefer go directly to meeting a guy in person after that. Invite mefor coffee, meet me for lunch, maybe a drink. I won't talk on the phone to a person I have never seen before, my mind imagines the worst, which is not fair and often inaccurate.


When you say tht you are "a good man", don't want to throw out "bullshit", etc, to me it comes of as sounding lazy and/or bitter. There are lots of "good men" - is that all you've got?! It'stoo deep,too fast. Things start off on a much less serious level. Plain oldattraction. I think that people who are interested infinding a mate usuallyput a lot of effort into it - get in shape, get new clothes,learn communication skills,researchfun places to go. The fact is, that is who you're competing with. If I meet a guy who wants to tell me a bitter sob story about how shallow everyone is, I run! Too serious, can't we start off with places you've traveled to ... while my mind muses, "hmm, nice shirt"!
 
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FrankDrebin,197926 wrote :

The wrong ones I guess. Out of 215 matches, I only made it to open communication with 3, and only met 1. The one I met, it was obvious to both of us that we weren't right for each other, the match was closed the next day.


Most of my matches just ignore me and never respond.


I asked if I could redo the origional questions, or if eH could do something to change the type of women I'm being matched with, but I got a packaged response full of the 29 demensions bs.


I was honest when I did the questions.





I do tend to be a little dry and to the point when communicating with a stranger over the internet. I am more of an in person type. I find I have writers block when it comes to asking questions to a stranger. It's easier in person or over the phone.


I am a good man! But I am unable to show it. I guess I have to compete with all the other guys throwing out game and bullshit. I can't believe some of the crap I overhear guys say to women in the bar, and they buy it.


Nice guys do finish last, I think need to find a way to become a full ofbs a-hole.








I Hope this finds you well


I to am a nice guy and do understand your problem. They don't respond back because, only assuming but lack of respect. I have a rule, no matter who writes me whether I have interest or not I will always reply back. This goes for the girl that is completely opposite from what I'm looking for or even that random guy. I have had great conversations with the girls even though I've already told them that there is no interest. So I guess in turn you make an on-line buddy that could become more.


Example: Old house-mate she was sweet, smart, playful, and full of life but she was a bit over weight. For the first time in my life I was able to look past the physical. Need less to say I was shocked, I had a great friend, I was in a relationship with someone that I respected and some where some time she became beautiful.


I’m looking for my 10 but remember a 10 can easily become a 2 and 2 can become a 10. Try to find the best, don't settle, look for that feel good person not just looks, Attraction can happen if all the other right is for you.


Reply back to all


I’m not that quack Fil but hope this helps
 
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lost_as_anyone,215034 wrote :

I suppose the lack of matches is due to the fact thatI'm so darn unique and there's no oneout there quite like me. At least, I TRY to look at it that way.

Yes!


I am unique and get a whole mix of responses from people. I am not insecure about it and in being so, seems like something gets lost in translation because I am very honest. I may be too open or trulthful for many people to tolerate in a jaded world but it is who I am - Unique. There are lots of things to most people and even I can't spout all of them out. What I have learned is it does take someone special to understand/accept me and would not be and ordinary person either. Turns out - it's all true! Don't forget to be you.
 
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I have a no nonsense image with men. I seem to emit an aura of truth and wholesomeness, primarily because of the absence of major baggage in my life. For some reason, this scares off many of them, as they don't think they can live up to my standards. This is good for me, as I do want a man who is honest, lives a clean and wholesome life and who had dealt with his demons.


If I exist, then I'm sure my male counterpart exists.


I continue to believe that the man shortage is not as bad as some would make it seem. The good men have retreated and are busy living their lives. We've got to wade through the chaff that appears to find the good ones. [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-cool.gif[/img]
 
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I am a caring,kind and beautiful black woman looking for a wonderful kind black man who will accept all of my signals and so much more.
 
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there I was on the top of the hill, smoky fire going, waving my blanket...till the rain came and i just thru a wet blanket over a smoldering desire.


upped the technology: 100K watt borderblaster type transmitter, but...I must be off the dial. I can't even decode the signal I am putting out.


The last time I really knew for sure...I was taking fertility pills,...and every man that stayed within arms length for any period of time seemed to respond. So, pheromones can draw a moth for miles. who wants moths?
 
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I am a divorced middle-aged man that loves to sing and dance!! I do love women and would like your opinion on my singing and dancing.


The video is on yahoo, you tube, funny or die, and other similar channels...





Just type in Poker Donkey song and my video will come up! I am currently single and looking, I do have two awesome son's that do not live with me however I would like to have a little girl... Are you the one? Let me know,





Sincerely, Tom Butler
 
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FrankDrebin,197926 wrote :

The wrong ones I guess. Out of 215 matches, I only made it to open communication with 3, and only met 1. The one I met, it was obvious to both of us that we weren't right for each other, the match was closed the next day.


Most of my matches just ignore me and never respond.


I asked if I could redo the origional questions, or if eH could do something to change the type of women I'm being matched with, but I got a packaged response full of the 29 demensions bs.


I was honest when I did the questions.





I do tend to be a little dry and to the point when communicating with a stranger over the internet. I am more of an in person type. I find I have writers block when it comes to asking questions to a stranger. It's easier in person or over the phone.


I am a good man! But I am unable to show it. I guess I have to compete with all the other guys throwing out game and bullshit. I can't believe some of the crap I overhear guys say to women in the bar, and they buy it.


Nice guys do finish last, I think need to find a way to become a full ofbs a-hole.
nice guys do not finish last you sound like your self esteem needs a boost I have been on eharmony for about five days and I've had like twenty guys close the match the first day thay didnt even give me a shot but you need to relize that that just because you didnt meet a great person the first time keep tryin you can change alittle bit of your profile to make you alittle more appealing change your picture and keep trying the right girl just hasnt meet you yet and when she does you will be plesently suprised good luck.
 
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