Birth Order and your Relationship

Birth Order and your Relationship

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eharmonyadvice is offline eharmonyadvice — Advice Official Moderator Post #1  January 23,2008, 7:42pm

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It’s something that we have absolutely no control over yet it influences how we interact with other people for the rest of our lives: birth order. See what patterns you are carrying from childhood and how it affects your dating life.
 
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Remiro is offline Remiro Post #2  January 23,2008, 7:42pm
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Nothing could be further from the truth. I am the first born and what is stated is in fact me. I am a controlling person and my career and success has been successful. I love to be in charge, it gives me great pleasure.

Thanks and enjoy reading your advice columns. Keep up the good work.
 
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mmaggie is offline mmaggie Post #3  January 23,2008, 9:41pm
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Well, my family obviously didn't read the rules! Other than the comment about only children, not one of the descriptions is on point as far as my family, my mother's family, and my father's family are concerned.

I wonder why. Seriously; I don't mean that facetiously.
 
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This article has alot of merit in that I married a first born as I am also one and am greatly attracted to the qualities of one. Unfortunately, I did not realize at the time, 25 years ago, that I needed to compromise more and instead we bucked heads everytime. Divorce was the only outlet. Oh, if I could only turn back the hands of time! So the lessons learned from that experience have served me well. I am now ready to try this again---marriage that is---with the right attitude and experience under my belt.
 
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I do find these traits to be generally true. Of course there are exceptions and extremes. I would be interested to know how different combinations work, what are the pitfalls for example, as abigail1997 said, two first borns (which I and my ex were also).
 
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karwolfe is offline karwolfe Post #6  January 25,2008, 4:12am
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I am the first born and that is me to the T.
 
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roodog is offline roodog Post #7  January 25,2008, 4:14am
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I am left wondering, where the hell did this person who wrote this artical come up with theinformation onBirth Orders and your Relationships, I mean,how did the arrive at the conclusion that what they have printed is correct. I am a first of 5 in my family, my only brother was born last, there are 3 sisters in between of us. I do not see any of the things the artical has stated! BUT, I must confess, it made great reading and another topic to discuss at the next singles meeting.
 
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Leao is offline Leao Post #8  January 25,2008, 8:24pm
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I am the middle child and it described me perfectly. I have 3 children and it fits each one of them as well. Great job, great reading...........
 
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As an only child and ongoing student of human nature, I can only say that my research has shown genetics to be the strongest factor in one's personality; environment surely plays an important part too. My high school friend was a rather arrogant "only" whose mom doted on her, and whose dad told her that she was never wrong. I, on the other hand, was the unwanted, neglected, and sometimes abused daughter of a harsh, authoritarian mother and alcoholic stepfather. In spite of being gifted artistically, musically, and academically, I never fulfilled my potential; I unwisely and unknowingly married an alcoholic with classic borderline personality disorder symptoms, at 17, after going on my own, at 16. My late, older second husband of 40 years was a charming-but-unstable gambler who suffered from PTSD caused by a World War II injury, while serving on Saipan with the Second Marine Division. It therefore took these 70 years for my lurking self-esteem to emerge, starting with being at the top of the Dean's List at Millard Fillmore College, in my early 40s. However, I salute the only children who did succeed, albeit stereotypical.
 
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PatriotGirl is offline PatriotGirl Post #10  January 30,2008, 11:39am
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This was a portrait of my siblings and I growing up. As a first born, I am often attracted to other firstborns. I like being around strong leaders and can-do types. I respect that more than someone I'd need to mother. Of course, many other people of varying birth orders can have these same traits, but they are probably most common in firstborns. I feel like I was born as an adult, for better or for worse!
 
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