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sseiderm is offline sseiderm Post #1  January 24,2012, 10:59am
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Hi everyone,

So I have been on Match.com for almost two months and I just canceled my eH subscription last week (barely getting any new matches, matches who have no pics, don't fill out their profile, out of my age range, etc). Anyway, I decided to join Match.com since I have close family friends who met on there and have been married for the last 8 years (their twins just turned 1). They are very happy together and that gave me some hope!
So I set up my account on Match, added a bunch of pictures (a mix of some very recent ones and from a few years ago). My age range on there for my potential match is, 21-26 years old (I am 21), body type: athletic and toned, definitely or someday wants children, and ethnicity: white/caucasian. I also like that there is a very wide variety of men on this site. Hopefully some of you here on the boards know what I'm talking about.
I have not had any luck at all during the time I've been signed up. The only type of men who have been attempting to contact me are in their 30's, 40's, and even one match in his 50's which is old enough to be my father! Some have children and are divorced. In general, the only people who have contacted me on their own are not even close to what I'm looking for. Yes, I've sent out many emails and winks to men who I am very interested in but they don't ever respond. I see that they have viewed my profile and have read my emails and I still haven't had any luck.
I feel that I have a great profile and great pictures up. Has anyone else had this frustration? Any advise would be appreciated!

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Why don't you contact some of the guys that look interesting to you? The match.com system actually starts to work better once you contact people, because their algorithm starts to pick up on the types that you are interested in.

But, coming from someone who did the online thing in her early 20s, your experience is sort of par for the course. I didn't get any good results until I started contacting people myself, versus waiting for them to contact me. Even just a "wink" usually did the trick to get a guy to email me.
 
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SteveManchesterEngland is offline SteveManchesterEngland Post #3  January 24,2012, 12:23pm
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Your date range looks a bit limited. I'd expand that to circa early 30s.

Most likely the issue is with your photos or you have something in your profile that is turning men off.

Generally though, for me, it's photos that can make or break a profile.
 
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Hi, thanks for responding!

eharmonyjc- As I've mentioned in the thread, I have sent out many emails and winks to different men that I'm interested in and I don't receive any responses. Yet I see that they have been read =/

stevemanchesterengland- I definitely agree that pictures can make or break a profile. I have close-ups, full-body, with family, friends, and performing a hobby that I enjoy. I'm in great shape and I'm dressed very well in every picture. In terms of age range, I'm 21 and I'd prefer to date someone who is still in their 20's and in my opinion, too much of an age gap is pretty creepy to me (in lack of a better term).
 
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I suspect a lot of men in that age range (early 20s) aren't on dating sites but those that are, could be lacking in social skills. That's why I suggest expanding your age range.
 
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sseiderm wrote :
Hi, thanks for responding!

eharmonyjc- As I've mentioned in the thread, I have sent out many emails and winks to different men that I'm interested in and I don't receive any responses. Yet I see that they have been read =/
Ooops, sorry, missed that part Multi-tasking over here!

It's hard to say why men may not be responding to you since we can't see your photos or profile. Have you tried sites like okcupid? I think those are more popular w/ a younger crowd.
 
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Actually, to my surprise there are tons of men who are in their early, mid, and late 20's on Match.com who I've tried contacting. I've even seen people as young as 19 on there.

eharmonyjc- no worries! Multitaskers just have a lot of talent =p
 
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legend29 is offline legend29 Post #8  January 24,2012, 5:02pm
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Uh...you do know you're posting this in an eharmony dating advice site?...lol

I feel your pain...but EHarmony should use your post as an ad for their commercial.

Not saying your luck will be any better on this site, but in my experience as a paid EH user, the matches on EH tend to be a bit more relationship-minded...

Just my unsolicited advice...
 
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I've used eH for 7 months with only a couple of dates that didn't work out, canceled my account for a while, then signed back up a while later redoing my whole profile, a month later, barely getting any matches which brings me to signing up for Match.com lol
 
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sseiderm wrote :
I've used eH for 7 months with only a couple of dates that didn't work out, canceled my account for a while, then signed back up a while later redoing my whole profile, a month later, barely getting any matches which brings me to signing up for Match.com lol
I get your point...EH can be really frustrating, especially since loads of profiles are non-paying members or folks who have not discontinued their profile because they are no longer members.

I had a pretty good experience with EH...better than the other sites...and have recommended it to friends and family.

But my lifestyle is not allowing any dating for the moment so I 'pay' but do not have the time to 'play'.

Writing, research, and teaching takes up most of my time these days...but I do recognize that there are losers on every dating site.

My firm advice: Leave that Match loser alone and wait for a great catch, no matter what site you choose.

Hey, there's always old school dating...I mean, how did folks meet before online dating sites?
 
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