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boschimsp is offline boschimsp — Advice Member-Moderator Post #41  January 26,2012, 10:01pm
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I suspect a lot of men in that age range (early 20s) aren't on dating sites but those that are, could be lacking in social skills. That's why I suggest expanding your age range.
Actually, I used Match.com in my early 20's (I was 22) and actually had no problem finding someone in my age range. My boyfriend at the time was two years older than me.
 
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I just wanted to say to the OP, I can relate to your situation. I personally never found college an easy place to meet guys I could see myself having a serious relationship with. And I say that as someone who was outgoing, in a sorority and constantly at mixers, parties, etc. My experience was often that people were looking for things that were more casual or that the environment (binge drinking) wasn't really conducive for meaningful relationships. Add to that the fact that my university was overwhelmingly female and gay-friendly (which I am all for, but greatly narrowed the dating pool) and I remember feeling a lot of the time like their was no one to choose from.

I actually did have a lot of success with Match.com in my early twenties and have other friends who used it in a similar age range, so I do think it is possible. (In fact, I actually had more success on that site than I did in my late 20's, go figure.)

However, I was right out of school and it is possible that little bit of time can make a difference. I think trying to start a relationship when you're on the verge of graduation can be difficult, especially when you're planning on relocating. Personally, I cannot imagine trying to finish things up and communicate with guys who live a few hours away.

My advice would be to continue making tweaks to your profiles so the best they can possibly be. Keep in mind that for a lot of people, the response rate can sometimes be lower than it feels like it should be. I know I've felt that way at times as have many of my girlfriends. I also wouldn't rule out the free sites. I do think they skew more toward the casual dater, BUT I personally met some great people on OKC and I do think it tends toward a slightly younger audience.
 
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Hmmm... To the OP: I pretty much exactly fit your criteria, haha. I frequently find dates in person and over multiple dating sites, including eHarmony and Match.

Looking for the same things as you - check

Athletically built - check

Age range - check

Caucasian - check

I liked your profile in your profile review - check

Kind of a shame that you live on the complete opposite side of the United States as I do. You couldn't live further away and still be in the U.S. haha.
 
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OP, it's very difficult to start a relationship when you will be moving back to N.Y. soon. It could be that this is what is discouraging potential suitors.

My advice is to be true to yourself. Your preferences are perfectly fine. You're 21 years old and should be dating another young person who has similar values, interests, hopes and dreams.

After you relocate, you should have a lot more communication. NYC has lots of young people looking for a serious relationship.

Good luck.
 
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Hi guys, I forgot to mention that I am searching for people who are in the tri-state area (NY, NJ, PA). I understand that it would not be logical to begin dating someone up here in MA, where I am at this point in time. I was recently thinking about closing my profile and re-opening it when I move back home in a few months.
Someone was also kind enough to do a review of my profile and I did a lot of editing. I have been having a bit more luck since but nothing solid so far but it's a start.

Thanks again for the advice on here, I appreciate it.
 
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