How do I not be so jealous?

Hi all,

So a bit about myself. I am a 23 year old masters educated man, who is cute, confident, funny and charming (I promise I'm not cocky, this part adds to the story.)

However, I have a tendency to get jealous or hurt by comments or actions by girls even when they have no intended reason to hurt or are even worthy of getting jealous about.

I have broke up or stopped dating girls in the past because of flirting with my friends or talking inappropriately to ex's (as in reminiscing about sex with them.) These things I do feel are worthy of breaking up, but there are other times when I still get jealous when I shouldn't.

So now on to the present... I am currently seeing this girl exclusively for about two weeks now (been talking for 4 weeks or so). We both have an amazing connection and I've never felt so alike to another girl before. The only thing that she occasionally will do is comment on the attractiveness of a celebrity. Granted, in the beginning when I talk to girls I ask about celebrity crushes as a way to see what their types are... so in a way I opened up a can of worms with that one. So we both exchange our celebrity crushes... both male and female for both, lol. That doesn't bother me because I asked the question and I couldn't disagree with her choices and she didn't show an ounce of jealousy over mine. However, if I'm not the one asking the question about it I tend to get sensitive and then I think why would she say that even though I know it's not meant to harm?

What I try to tell myself is that she will comment on BOTH male and female celebrities objectively that are good looking. So it makes me feel better knowing that she would make these comments about any attractive celebrity and just not males (no she is not a lesbian or bi.)

Also every girl I've ever dated or been in a relationship with does tend to open up their mouths and say things about their past in too much detail or about celebrities in more details than I would like. It's made me feel more like I'm the crazy one then the girls themselves as every girl tends to do this. I would like both a guy's and a girl's opinion on this issue because I want to learn not to get so anxious about a meaningless comment or something in the past that has no bearing on the future. I am very inquisitive person and try to summarize stuff so this is my rationale.

My rationale: Girls tend to be more like open books with their lives. They are more apt to say celebrity crushes, talk about ex's and their past and not see it as a bad thing. They see celebrities as unattainable and are not in love with them nor would they cheat on a partner to get with them (I hope). It's just a fun thing to develop crushes on the characters or actors. What women ultimately want are stability, support, love over good looks so these celebrities can't provide that anyways.

Guys are obviously more reserved. We see attractive people on the tv all the time but tend to internalize it and instead immediately think of them in bed. We see no point in commenting on another celebrity's hotness as it has no impact or good in the relationship. Guy's tend to talk about other girls to their friends as opposed to their girlfriend, while girl's seem more okay with talking about it with their boyfriend.

So I'd like to hear people's thoughts on my interpretations of the situation. I know someone will suggest I am insecure and have low-confidence, but I think if anything it's more the other way. I get so offended at the thought that a girl I am interested in finds somebody else attractive... GASP. Not that I think they will cheat on me, but that they would even tell me about it. I have control issues and don't do well with unpredictability... that much I know and I do need a lot of reassurance... it's definitely something I have improved on and am working on more. It's just not in my personality to out loud say a celebrity I find attractive, but I have to become more accepting that will happen every now and then and not to react so strongly when it does since it means nothing. I really like this girl so far and don't want to lose her over anything meaningless. : )

Hope to get some feedback on people's thoughts or people who have been in this position before.

Thanks!

My rationale: Girls tend to be more like open books with their lives. They are more apt to say celebrity crushes, talk about ex's and their past and not see it as a bad thing. They see celebrities as unattainable and are not in love with them nor would they cheat on a partner to get with them (I hope). It's just a fun thing to develop crushes on the characters or actors. What women ultimately want are stability, support, love over good looks so these celebrities can't provide that anyways.

Guys are obviously more reserved. We see attractive people on the tv all the time but tend to internalize it and instead immediately think of them in bed. We see no point in commenting on another celebrity's hotness as it has no impact or good in the relationship. Guy's tend to talk about other girls to their friends as opposed to their girlfriend, while girl's seem more okay with talking about it with their boyfriend.