littlebluemonkeymind is offline littlebluemonkeymind Post #21  January 16,2012, 5:59pm
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D_Lion wrote :
Regarding the comments about the "current market," you're making a (common) mistake.

Since you are selling and also buying in the same market, you are actually better off: Any disadvantage on the sale price is offset by the same advantage on the purchase price of a new house, and the transaction taxes will be lower.

As regards not wanting to move, I fully respect that decision, but it really is the only way to end the problem while being assured of safety. It's sad, but you take a risk every time you confront someone (and the more weird or unstable they are, the less safe I'd feel.)

Having lived in a variety of neighborhoods, I find that the more expensive the homes, the better the experience, and the correlation is high. (Though one can of worms is homeowners' associations, which you can use to your advantage but may limit your own freedoms.) Simply adding space - larger lots - does a world of good, too.
Safety is an illusion - as is fear.

I see what you're saying about market values. I hadn't thought of it that way...I just happen to like where I live and the neighbor is old and cranky and has poor health habits. I can outlast him! And while I agree in principle that quality is better in higher-valued neighborhood, there really is no guarantee that her next neighbor wouldn't just be a more well off (or deeper in debt) crank. We also don't know anything about her neighborhood - she might already be in a high-value area. The ability to buy more doesn't correlate to human decency at all.

My experience with larger lots is that people mistakenly think they are in the country and are more likely to infringe by not controlling animals (or children), although the lesser grievances would be decreased. On the two occasions when I've lived on multi-acre lots, all the neighborhood dogs that weren't properly managed trooped through the yard at one point or another...which made my dogs exceedingly happy. Me, not so much.

My eight-foot privacy fence takes care of pretty much all neighbor-related issues - and I take care of the nuisances when they cross over. I need the slingshot practice anyway.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
I'm not a fan of incremental back and forth, since you never know how far or how fast a (mentally unstable) person will escalate. That's the scary part.


Path two, document. Photos, videos and notes are the best thing your attorney can bring to the table. (And I agree with the post of checking other neighbors.)

I don't know you have any claim against being bitten once you trespass. If I was on a jury, I'd accept someone killing a vicious animal on their property, or killing a nuisance animal in the neighborhood - though your "peers" may not be so inclined - but I'd reject a claim for damages on someone else's property.
The bold part above is something to listen to and keep in mind at all times! Sometimes we get involved in "exchanges" with people that will always go to a level that we are unwilling to delve.

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No action to take. Strange.. I wouldn't have rewarded his behavior.

Feuders get bored when you refuse to play.

I would cease the gifts and acting super-friendly bit. When it's absolutely necessary to talk, just stand your ground without any hostility.
The above part is absolutely true! Unfortunately any response is usually a validation to these type of people, once they get no "reward" they typically find better prey.



Sassafras54 wrote :
Meanwhile. I have little hope of reaching a good neighborly state with this guy. It's more an exercise in changing my own experience ... shifting from perennial anger to compassion. While still defending against his incursions.

Ah! my friend just called; got me in to a doctor in an hour ... back later
Sorry about your wrist and I hope for a speedy recovery!

I would recommend not having compassion or anger, I would recommend having nothing for this guy. Erase him, ignore him (beyond anything that is absolutely necessary), anything more than that will only instigate him further.

And please do not move, do not allow this guy to have such control over your life.
 
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