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Why do guys hate losing anything(except for THAT) to women? Especially any type of competition?
 
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Is this one of those stereotypes? I'm competitive but I don't hate losing. I just make sure it doesn't happen a second time.

Seriously, if I play my g/f at a game and I lose, I don't get "mad" or "upset" or have a "temper tantrum". Those are signs of poor sportsmanship. Most sports leagues try to work that out of you and impose punishments for those who don't get it. However, I will certainly try to understand where I went wrong and the next time you won't see me losing the same way again.

At those sports I'm good at, the ones I can compete at a very high level, I've lost over and over getting to the point where I was very difficult to defeat. Losing is part of the improvement process and a healthy psyche can tolerate it.
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Do you have a favorite game that you've lost to a woman more than once? It's actually an observance on my part, and NOT just with bfs. I've had male relatives, and non related friends get angry, pout, go home, throw things, and act out in other immature ways. And usually unless they get to chose what game they want to play(board, card, not porn) they refuse to play any games I'm good at. I have come to the conclusion that it must do something to a males 'psyche to keep playing any game they can't win.



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Do you have a favorite game that you've lost to a woman more than once?
Yes, even one where I've made the news and competed in a world championship (granted, at the lower rungs). Can you imagine a good club-, county-, or state-level tennis player claiming no woman could beat them, and getting upset if Serena Williams did? They would sound ridiculous! Granted, the top few male players in many sports could make that claim without it being baseless.

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I've had male relatives, and non related friends get angry, pout, go home, throw things, and act out in other immature ways. And usually unless they get to chose what game they want to play(board, card, not porn) they refuse to play any games I'm good at.
My girlfriend is really good at Scrabble and I'm dying to play her.

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I have come to the conclusion that it must do something to a males 'psyche to keep playing any game they can't win.
Nah. This is not common behavior among educated professionals men who live in big cities on either coast in my experience. I have observed behavior like that from folks in rural areas who may have less education or firsthand experience with the world. Also from much older folks who grew up and competed in world that was quite different than it is today.
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Now, who's stereotyping, shapeShifter79? Does that mean you have played every male in a rural area? Or are you just trying to offend the members who happen to live there? Besides, you are usually playing females NOT males, so my obsevations would be ALOT different from yours. And what makes you think I live in a rural area anyway? Did I say so? I live near Columbus, Oh. And you could hardly call it rural. We even have some skyscrapers-just like NY. And most of my friends and bfs live in cities. And are well educated.



Suzie PS, This thread was about poor sportsmanship, and NOT about where we live. Or anyone else for that matter.
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Give it up. I think Columbus, Ohio is famous for being close to the town that has that famous statue featuring rows of corn...
 
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1Horselady wrote :
shapeShifter79,

Do you have a favorite game that you've lost to a woman more than once? It's actually an observance on my part, and NOT just with bfs. I've had male relatives, and non related friends get angry, pout, go home, throw things, and act out in other immature ways. And usually unless they get to chose what game they want to play(board, card, not porn) they refuse to play any games I'm good at. I have come to the conclusion that it must do something to a males 'psyche to keep playing any game they can't win.


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Are you talking about grown adults in the above bold?

I don't think I know or have dated any guy who has acted that way after losing a game.

I take my football...(not playing...but watching my team) very seriously...as did my ex husband...and we would both get a bit of a tummy ache if we were watching a game that is going down to the wire. And then a bit bummed for 15 minutes or so after a big loss....

But that's it....And I have played lots of card games and such over the many hours of down time that can happen when working in a Fire Department...I never saw anyone take it so personally...

As well as having played lots of golf with men I've dated and male friends. I've never seen one person get upset the way you mention. I'm usually the one cursing a bit..more with laughter...when I hit a bad shot

I've also photographed and been a spectator at many pick up, non professional all the way to professional games of all types of sports. It's extremely rare to see a bad sport.

That would actually tell me a lot about a guy I was dating if he had a hissy fit over a simple game. I'm competitive myself when it comes to playing volleyball, but it's easily shaken off in a short time afterwards.

So if a man I was starting to date did those things...that would be a red flag for me.
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1Horselady wrote :
shapeShifter79,

Do you have a favorite game that you've lost to a woman more than once? It's actually an observance on my part, and NOT just with bfs. I've had male relatives, and non related friends get angry, pout, go home, throw things, and act out in other immature ways. And usually unless they get to chose what game they want to play(board, card, not porn) they refuse to play any games I'm good at. I have come to the conclusion that it must do something to a males 'psyche to keep playing any game they can't win.



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Sorry, but I find your experience fairly unusual. The number of times I've seen the kind of conduct you describe, over my entire lifetime I can easily count on one hand.

If someone behaved like that within my group of friends, they would not be invited to return again. In competitive sports it's even less tolerated and people will get kicked, disqualified and otherwise penalized for tantrums. Every sport that I know of places heavy emphasis on sportsmanship.

I think sometimes we create our bubbles in life in terms of people we surround ourselves with or get thrown in with by circumstance and then it seems like the whole world is like that.
 
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Everyone hopes to win..that's why people play games, etc. To see if they have the skills to win. Maybe they refuse to play games they just don't enjoy.
1Horselady wrote :
Why do guys hate losing anything(except for THAT) to women? Especially any type of competition?
This is a sore loser not a man:
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friends get angry, pout, go home, throw things, and act out in other immature ways. And usually unless they get to chose what game they want to play they refuse to play any games I'm good at
 
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1Horselady wrote :
shapeShifter79,

I've had male relatives, and non related friends get angry, pout, go home, throw things, and act out in other immature ways. And usually unless they get to chose what game they want to play(board, card, not porn) they refuse to play any games I'm good at.


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I have to agree with most of the others. This is not typical in my experience. I'm not going to say I've never seen it happen, but it is more the exception than the rule, by far.
 
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