Advice on 2012 Resolutions?

It's a good idea...if it's what you truly want. If you travel a lot and need the freedom to have flings, then no amount of resolve will allow you to be "all in" a relationship. Emotional walls, can't cough up an "I love you" non-commitment and a constant eye to the outside are all signs of the same thing....never getting attached.

It is what I want. Wouldn't waste people's time otherwise.

Went so far as to hang these up in my master bath and on my refrigerador door. Really don't care if a woman that I bring over to my place sees these hanging up because I am not going to hide this side of me anymore.

Thanks for the advice! Have a feeling I will be leaning on the community more throughout my journey.

I'd focus on something more practical, probably along these lines:

- Take easy steps to be approachable, such as not using headphones in the gym. Don't let little things potentially dissuade someone from trying to speak to you.

- Spend more time where the fish are feeding. Add some cardio (where the women congregate) or go to a bar or club regularly (regular people are trusted people.)

- Invest some effort in a way that lets you get close to women, and leads to one-on-one conversation. Like dancing. It's fine to feel dorky - in a couple months you'll be a regular. Always keep in mind the "invisble pool" of women - it's not just the ones in the room, but the friends and family of the ones in the room. Being friendly, kind, and honest to an incompatible woman can be what lands an introduction.

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I agree with not wasting time, but I'd tend to see your ideas as a bit needy.

This might be a bit long-winded post but would appreciate some feedback from the community. Believe lurking and participating in some of the threads here have given me a new perspective on how I need to approach dating.

Trying to find love is not new territory for me but it is unique in that I've never made a resolution concerning my love life.

Before I get into it, I will admit that I am not a particularly emotional guy. I do have trouble letting my walls down and allowing myself to be emotionally exposed. Not that I don't want to or that stops me from caring or wanting to tear down those walls ... women in my life just never stick around either because I either sabotage the relationship or it just doesn't work out.

Resolution: Commit myself to finding a relationship where I feel comfortable in telling my partner "I love you".

Steps to accomplish this commitment:
1. No Long-Term Relationship Substitutes.
2. No Second Dates with Women I Can't See Myself Sharing a Future With.
3. Don't Fear Being "All In".
4. Clearly State My Goals to New Romantic Prospects.
5. Ring Fund by June.

Are there things you would add or remove from that list? Did I take some of these things too far or not far enough? If you walked into a guy's house and saw this posted on his refrigerador door would that freak you out?

For whatever reason putting these down on paper have given me greater clarity. Is that weird?