Do you look at dates as potential marriage partners?


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I don't, really. I did for about 5 years in my mid-30's ... tick-tock, tick-tock said the biological clock!

Apparently a lot of people don't, and especially among younger people. From the Associated Press today: Staying out of the ring: Barely half of adults wed

How do you see yourself organizing your life if you don't marry?
 
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Since I plan to get married and have children in the not so distant future, I defintely do! If I discover that someone is not on the same page I can still enjoy his company for the evening and I don't fault him, but I won't invest a great deal of time and emotion in someone that doesn't share my vision for the future.

As for your second question, not marrying is not a part of my vision, so I have no answer for that :-)
 
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LongLocks is offline LongLocks Post #3  December 21,2011, 11:02am
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Not anymore. I'm just looking for someone to be my companion, good friend and luvah.
 
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Yes. Having been married and divorce hasn't tarnished my vision of one day enjoying a happy, healthy marriage.
 
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There are also convenience advantages to a committed relationship where you live together as opposed to a great casual relationship--housing costs, long-term savings, food preparation, chores, outings with multiple kids, having someone you can count on when the chips are down. I won't marry or stay in a marriage for convenience, but I would prefer a relationship that includes these things.
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Yes, because that's my end goal. If I was just looking for casual whatever, I would be probably be going out with different types of guys

If I don't marry, I guess I would just keep doing what I've been doing for the past 11 years of adult-hood. Working on future goals for my career, to buy another house etc. I don't think that would change too much if I got married, although having kids would probably prolong achieving my career goals, which would be OK. The type and location of house I'd buy would probably be different if I was married and looking to have kids, than if I stayed single too.
 
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The article is right about the omega-male being a huge deterrent.
 
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only if they have more assets/money that I have!
 
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SteveManchesterEngland wrote :
only if they have more assets/money that I have!
What if she had far more money, but required you to wear a gps device with sound and an occasional video feed? I met someone who did that to her spouse and he went along with it.
 
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I want to get married again. I will break up with somone if I do not think they have marriage potential. I dated the fun guy without potential and now I am looking for the long term.
 
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