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boschimsp is offline boschimsp — Advice Member-Moderator Post #31  January 3,2012, 9:59am
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Since this is quite a few days from your initial post I hope you've had a good time on any dates you've been on in the past few weeks. :-) I personally don't see any problem with letting your date know early on that you have such a strong allergy. As long as you don't go on and on about it and make it clear that you don't let it control your life/keep you from doing things, to me sharing it could only help you. It seems like the best way to ensure someone won't have any incorrect assumptions about your diet, as you say in your initial post.

I also think a lot of it has to do with your attitude toward it, as is true of most things in dating. If you make it a big deal and allow it to get your confidence down, it certainly will affect your dating. But if you take it in stride and assume that it won't be a huge hassle or deal breaker, I think it won't.

I do not have a gluten or wheat allergy, but my experience, at least in my area, is that it is becoming pretty mainstream so more and more people are becoming aware of it. I think as someone who doesn't have an allergy is that the person's allergy will dramatically cramp our lifestyle in a relationship and as long as I'm assured that isn't true, I know I would be open minded.
 
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TiffanyDiamond is offline TiffanyDiamond Post #32  January 4,2012, 9:11pm
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You don't have to go into your medical history on your first date...but don't stress over your food allergy. I am a vegetarian, and while that's not the same as having a serious food allergy, it still presents challenges when going out to certain restaurants. Do your research and find restaurants that can cater to your particular needs and where you would feel comfortable eating. Don't stress over it. Just get to work, find some places and call them and find out if they are appropriate places for your to eat. It's very simple.
 
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Kate37 wrote :
I'm getting back in the game after being absent for about a year, but in that time I've found out I have a serious food allergy (gluten). It's serious enough that I get sick for 2-3 days from even skin contact (I'd be scared at this point to see what happens if I actually ate anything with it, but wouldn't be surprised if an ER visit would be necessary.) so I need to be very careful about things. It has literally turned my life around in more ways that I can list here, so to say that it has improved my life is an understatement, but it does present a problem with regard to dinner dates, as it drastically limits the places that I can go to and actually participate in a meal without having to just sit & watch someone else eat and feel awkward the whole night.

Meeting at Starbucks is fine because I can just opt out when necessary, but for an actual meal it isn't that easy. I'm curious if anyone has the same issue. There are literally only a few restaurants that I have been to & would rely on being "safe" without risking serious allergic reactions. I don't want to go into my full medical history before date one or two (or even over the phone trying to arrange date one or two), but I don't want to seem like I'm just a picky eater or trying to angle for a more expensive meal. Thoughts??

Any advice from someone who has landed on either side of this situation would be greatly appreciated!!!


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I have the Same problem and I am a Chef! although my allergy is not as severe as yours. I would be very ill if I did eat Gluten.
I know it seems like you are very limited in where you can eat but you would be surprised how accomodating restaurants can be.
I usually tell my dates on the first date about the allergy not before. I just ask them ahead of time where we are going ( usually I meet them) and I call ahead and find out from the restaruant what is safe to eat or what they can do for me.
I have never had a date have a problem with it. They are usually very supportive I have even had a date bring me a GF cookie on the second date!
Good luck!
 
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