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Wiseman2 is offline Wiseman2 Post #11  December 12,2011, 1:43am
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Seriously .......the US is so multicultural..that's not the problem.
The problem is shooting yourself in the foot by posting no pictures or poorly taken ones..Then signing up for adult sites full of garbage.
Sign up for some decent dating sites with some decent pics and a decently written profile...and stop using heritage as an excuse....Good Luck...
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I have tried Plenty of Fish for about 4 months and I wrote to several girls and I never heard one single message back. Maybe because I never posted a profile picture.
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Seriously .......the US is so multicultural..that's not the problem.
The problem is shooting yourself in the foot by posting no pictures or poorly taken ones..Then signing up for adult sites full of garbage.
Sign up for some decent dating sites with some decent pics and a decently written profile...and stop using heritage as an excuse....Good Luck... ..Duh
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I have tried Plenty of Fish for about 4 months and I wrote to several girls and I never heard one single message back. Maybe because I never posted a profile picture.
I get lots of views on POF. I will only view the profiles of men who also have a photo. To view the profiles of men who don't have photos would be like encouraging them to keep their profiles as is.

If you go back to POF put up photos! Decent ones! Not the squinty-eyed angry mess you have here.
 
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lakecreek wrote :
Yes, I'm really thinking India might be a good place for me to find a relationship, I just feel American women does not like me so I have to go else where to find that person. I really don't want to leave the US but if that is the only way to find someone I might have to.
So are you aware of what dating is like in India? Things are changing there but I've dated Indian men here in the US who have told me that kids are encouraged not to date by their Indian parents.

Arranged marriages are still big there though things are changing/evolving on that front too. Many of the young people or their family use matrimonial websites which is similar to online dating except that theoretically everyone is game for getting married. Though I've read complaints that people are on those sites for hookups or scams too. This is a very simplified explanation but you can google the topic and learn more about it. Those sites also are used by Indian Americans and Non Resident Indians(here temporarily for work or school) who live in the US. So before moving to India you might just consider signing up for one of these sites to learn more about this different approach to finding one's life partner/spouse as that what you may face anyway if you were to move to India.

But if you decide to stay with online dating sites here do make sure that you always load your photos and write an interesting profile. Also consider joining some Meetup groups in your area as a way to meet people. If you're a student not sure whether Match or eHarmony would be as effective as a free site such as OKCupid since I'm guessing another college student would be a good choice for you?

Number one tip for your photos: have at least one with an engaging smile. I wouldn't use the one you showed where you're frowning but you are not a bad looking guy so don't think of yourself as unattractive.
 
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Just read this today and thought you might gain some more insight and ideas from the article and the comments where more advice/ideas are given. (It's about a 36 year old Indian woman in NYC and her dating woes.)

I Have Tried Everything And Online Dating Is Still Not Working! | Evan Marc Katz Blog - Dating Coach
 
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Firstly, I think you are very handsome. I assure you it is not your looks that is deterring this girl.

How long have you been online? If you have been online dating for less than a year, I would not worry about your lack of success. Online dating is time consuming for everyone, as there are so many good and bad matches to choose from. The major flaw of dating online is that you don't know these people at all--you have no clue what their personal circumstances are regardless of what they say in their profiles.

With that said, you need to be patient as you sift through the endless matches coming to you! If you have been on here actively dating for 5+ years and still are unsuccessful, maybe there is some sort of culture clash going on between you and American women. If you find culture to be a problem, perhaps you should try filtering your matches for women who identify with your culture.

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Firstly, I think you are very handsome. I assure you it is not your looks that is deterring this girl.

How long have you been online? If you have been online dating for less than a year, I would not worry about your lack of success. Online dating is time consuming for everyone, as there are so many good and bad matches to choose from. The major flaw of dating online is that you don't know these people at all--you have no clue what their personal circumstances are regardless of what they say in their profiles.

With that said, you need to be patient as you sift through the endless matches coming to you! If you have been on here actively dating for 5+ years and still are unsuccessful, maybe there is some sort of culture clash going on between you and American women. If you find culture to be a problem, perhaps you should try filtering your matches for women who identify with your culture.

Best of luck.
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I just got on this website about a month ago but its funny this person never sent me photos back. Sometime I wonder if it was it even a woman or a man playing as a woman. This person never had any profile pictures. Too many scammers online and most people tell me its best to meet people in person because you can get to know them easier. It eliminates the hassle of maintaining a profile and provides better connection. I would rather meet people in person, but I just don't know what are good places, I'm not really a clubbing person and not really a bar kind of guy. I do drink but very lightly.
 
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Lakecreek, you've only been on the sites for a month. You've gotten one communication and if you get one per month at least, you are doing well.

I had a friend in college from India.(female) I learned quite a bit about India from her. Her family had always been trying to arrange her into marriage, within the family itself nonetheless.

You need to smile and put a picture up with you smiling. Others of us are above 25 and have no special someone in their lives, but we keep going.

Another thing about India, I read an article just the other day in fact. While laws have been made to try and arrest it, cultural segments of India have become obsessed with wanting boy babies rather than girls. Girls are not encouraged highly to become the "bread-winners" so to speak and as per arranged marriage, are often given with dowry. With technology, people are able to be certain they birth a "bread-winner."

As a result of time, there is a growing population of men, without enough women to match them for marriage and such.

I'd say you should reconsider the "move for dating purposes" idea.
 
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