Men and Women - Just Friends?


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Mr_Right is offline Mr_Right Post #1  December 9,2011, 4:10pm
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Saw a amusing video the other day and had to share - Why Men and Women Cant be friends - YouTube

It answers the age old question - can men and women be just friends?
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #2  December 9,2011, 4:15pm
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I disagree with the video.
 
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PictureImperfect is offline PictureImperfect Post #3  December 9,2011, 4:53pm
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is enjoying the view... even if she does have to make it herself!

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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
I disagree with the video.
Considering all the male friends in my circle of acquaintances, I am relieved to hear that from a man!
 
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PictureImperfect wrote :
Considering all the male friends in my circle of acquaintances, I am relieved to hear that from a man!
I think age has a lot to do with it too.
 
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BikerBeagle is offline BikerBeagle Post #5  December 9,2011, 5:36pm
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thinks everyone should just ask themselves, WWBBD?

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Already posted in the "About You" forum ...http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...t-friends.html (Why men and women can't be friends.) ...but not getting much response over there either.
 
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PictureImperfect is offline PictureImperfect Post #6  December 9,2011, 10:40pm
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tangochef wrote :
I think age has a lot to do with it too.
But... what about all the guy friends I had in my 20s and 30s?!

(I am not sure what is the right emoticon here: )
 
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Bettina M is offline Bettina M Post #7  December 9,2011, 11:15pm
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That sounds very interesting...
 
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BikerBeagle is offline BikerBeagle Post #8  December 10,2011, 4:33am
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Frankly, I think that the concept of someone (male or female) seeking only a 'friendship' with someone else who they are not attracted to, but who they know is romantically/sexually attracted to them, is the single greatest, worst thing someone can do to another human being. It's reprehensible, atrocious, dispicable behavior and should be considered on par with committing emotional genocide.

...but that's just me.
 
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BikerBeagle wrote :
Frankly, I think that the concept of someone (male or female) seeking only a 'friendship' with someone else who they are not attracted to, but who they know is romantically/sexually attracted to them, is the single greatest, worst thing someone can do to another human being. It's reprehensible, atrocious, dispicable behavior and should be considered on par with committing emotional genocide.

...but that's just me.
This. Plus, anyone who puts their primary relationship at risk for sake of one of these one-sided "friendships" is lying - to themselves, to their friend, and to their partner.

I have guy friends. There is no attraction - or at least they are men of good enough character that their primary obligations come first and they would never either say or do anything to risk those primary obligations. Same for me. We all understand this intrinsically. I don't keep anyone in my life who doesn't. I don't confide in them things that would create too much of an emotional bond. They don't put me in situations that are compromising. I don't expect to be included in significant areas of their lives. I would never do anything that put their primary relationships at risk. It's a limited friendship at best - and we all know that it's so and are very careful about the boundaries.

But then, my definition of friend is pretty stringent. Most people are simply pleasant acquaintances.
 
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NBdater is offline NBdater Post #10  December 10,2011, 5:59am
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I have many women friends. I only view them in an androgynous sense. That is no doubt why they are so comfortable with me.
 
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