SteveManchesterEngland is offline SteveManchesterEngland Post #61  December 20,2011, 2:57am
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AndieIsMe wrote :
That is too bad about the Christmas thing. Hope it didn't put a crimp in your Christmas celebrations.
It did! but thanks for the nice comment.

The important thing about dating these kind of flakey/unreliable people is learning. When I didn't pay attention and learn from bad relationships, I repeated the same mistakes which was very foolish!
 
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I have put a lot of thought into ownership issues during my marriage & post divorce. I have identified a couple of things that I acknowledge were negative & under my control during the marriage. However, my ex's unwillingness/inability to deal with his diagnosis of bipolar illness far out weighs the places where I had culpability.

In my post divorce life, I am having a harder time figuring things out. It's been just over a year. I have dated 6 men. Numbers one & six went poof. Number two and 5 were one & done (no attraction), # 3 was here on vacation, so was time limited. Number 4, I went out with about 4 times & I guess it was a mutual poof, neither of us called the other. I liked the man & hoped some attraction could develop, but it just didn't. So basically, of the 5 men that live here, 3 were no attraction & 2 went poof. The no attraction thing is what it is - it happens. The poofers? I have spent considerable time trying to figure out what caused them to do the fade to black thing. If there is some thing there that I should be owning, I would love to figure it out so that I can determine if it is something that is central to my character & if it's a deal breaker, so be it, or if there is something more superficial that I could & should change about my dating approach. But the poofers don't do anything to help you analyze things, which is very frustrating.
 
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