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dmi is online now dmi Post #21  November 25,2011, 5:57pm
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EccentricAmbiguity wrote :
Two most recent strange OKC experiences:
1. Guy contacts me with a few sentences about liking my profile and wanting to get to know me. I don't respond and seriously 8 hours later he writes me again and asks why I haven't responded. I proceeded to block him.
Thing about OKCupid being free and all is that you know everyone can read and respond to messages. You also know when they were last online. So, they know you're more or less ignoring them. 8 hours seems fast to send that kind of message because sometimes people don't have time to respond to everyone every time they log on. Anyhow, you get people like that sometimes... part of what getting what you pay for, I suppose.


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Those emails combined with a whole bunch of one line emails such as "Hey baby", or "Hi sweety", or "Did you know you are HOT" have been really irritating.

Other thing about OKCupid is that it tells you somebody's response rate. I'm not actively using OKCupid right now, but, if I were, I sure as heck wouldn't waste much time composing a meaningful email to somebody that "responds very selectively"... just not worth the time and effort. At least with someone that "responds often" you can have an enjoyable conversation even if they don't view you as a match and that alone is worth the time it takes to write a good email.
 
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Well dang-it, have been back on OKC for almost 4 days, and I find myself closing it again



Oh, I'm back in the L's (this one is MENSA, and yes, we really clicked)
 
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emma_hazards wrote :
That's one or two more men than were previously on your radar screen...and you didn't have to pay anything
That's true. I've answered the guys who have written me, mostly turning them down as we're clearly not compatible (and their emails were obviously canned comments they send to everyone).

There have been three I have exchanged a few emails with. One I don't think will go anywhere as he's too "out there" in his thoughts for me. One sounds very compatible with me personality-wise, but he is 21 years older than me, retired, and wants to move to San Diego... making him ultimately not a good match for me. The third one seems like a nice, normal guy in the parameters of the kind of guy I'd like to meet. I'll be away for a week so meeting will be at least two weeks out.
 
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EccentricAmbiguity wrote :
Two most recent strange OKC experiences:
My strangest match so far is the transvestite with photos of him/her on a motorcycle, on top of a car, and sitting in a garden. Gotta admit, he's got great legs! LOL!

My week on there has discovered an unusually high percentage of biker dudes and musicians... far more than on eH and match (which had already been annoyingly high in those kinds of guys to me).
 
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1 out of 3 isn't bad. I would try to set something up before you take off for the week. Maybe have a phone call while you're away to keep interest levels up (both yours and his).

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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
My strangest match so far is the transvestite with photos of him/her on a motorcycle, on top of a car, and sitting in a garden. Gotta admit, he's got great legs! LOL!

My week on there has discovered an unusually high percentage of biker dudes and musicians... far more than on eH and match (which had already been annoyingly high in those kinds of guys to me).
And maybe that is why OKC works so well for me!
 
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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
My strangest match so far is the transvestite with photos of him/her on a motorcycle, on top of a car, and sitting in a garden. Gotta admit, he's got great legs! LOL!

My week on there has discovered an unusually high percentage of biker dudes and musicians... far more than on eH and match (which had already been annoyingly high in those kinds of guys to me).
Hah, have not been matched up with a transvestite yet. But I certainly don't mind the musicians. (The grown up have a job ones at least..)
 
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dmi wrote :

Other thing about OKCupid is that it tells you somebody's response rate. I'm not actively using OKCupid right now, but, if I were, I sure as heck wouldn't waste much time composing a meaningful email to somebody that "responds very selectively"... just not worth the time and effort.
Good point, and I assume I come up as "replies selectively" as I don't reply to most emails.
 
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EccentricAmbiguity wrote :
But I certainly don't mind the musicians. (The grown up have a job ones at least..)
I've been there, done that, with a musician. Was married to one for 19 years.

Never.Again.
 
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I've been there, done that, with a musician. Was married to one for 19 years.

Never.Again.
Hahaha, yes, well I was with a musician(full time musician who made a living off it) for a year and I guess that wasn't long enough for me to learn my lesson.
 
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