JickJack is offline JickJack Post #1  November 14,2011, 4:44pm
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I am a Korean guy born and raised in the USA and I'm 100% American. I've live in Idaho most all of my life. And this region where I am is 98% Caucasian. Most of what I get kind no thank you's when I ask someone out. I think Asian women would be more open to me. Well there aren't many single Asian women within a hundred miles. Some Asian ladies I see on dating websites at area colleges...but they are in their early 20s. So basically I have given up asking out women even though I want a marriage and a couple of kids. What should I do? Advice please!
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I am a Korean guy born and raised in the USA and I'm 100% American. I've live in Idaho most all of my life. And this region where I am is 98% Caucasian. Most of what I get kind no thank you's when I ask someone out. I think Asian women would be more open to me. Well there aren't many single Asian women within a hundred miles. Some Asian ladies I see on dating websites at the colleges located a couple hours away...but they are in their early 20s. I'm in my mid 30s. I keep hoping for a mature graduate student online there but haven't seen any ever.So every night I come home and do nothing, basically have given up. I want a marriage and a couple of kids. I tried eharmony twice for three months. That was a bust - no local replies. What should I do? Advice please!
You have to really decide how important it is to get married and have kids.

Have you looked into transferring your job to a metropolitan city or finding a similar job around the U.S.? This is something that you could put into motion in the next few years.

What else is keeping you in Idaho at age 30 besides your job?

How close are the major cities to you to at least trying to date long distance?

Are you involved in a Korean Church?

Where I live outside of D.C....this is a total non issue. That is why moving might be your best option to have a larger pool from which to choose.

Also...it could be that there is another reason that you are getting turned down for dates and not being Korean. Many people decide to put their EH profile for review on the Using eHarmony board.
 
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Have you thought about expanding your search beyond Idaho?
 
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I agree with Ingy.

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Also...it could be that there is another reason that you are getting turned down for dates and not being Korean. Many people decide to put their EH profile for review on the Using eHarmony board.
According to the dating study from the NY Times article that someone linked on another post out of the profiles a vast majority were not crossing the racial boundaries.

Even in the LA area, I mostly see Asian women with Caucasian men, but do not really see Asian men with women of other races.
 
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According to the dating study from the NY Times article that someone linked on another post out of the profiles a vast majority were not crossing the racial boundaries.

Even in the LA area, I mostly see Asian women with Caucasian men, but do not really see Asian men with women of other races.
Then he should move to Northern VA...Asian men and Caucasian women are plentiful

I've dated a few over the years and have that selection when I use EH.
 
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Actually I see more and more Asian men with Caucasian women and African American women in LA. Couples that I've seen have all been young, attractive and appeared to be educated. Jickjack, do you live near a college? College towns are great for meeting hip and young (or young-ish) open minded people. Or move to a "hipper" part of town?
 
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I am a Korean guy born and raised in the USA and I'm 100% American. I've live in Idaho most all of my life. And this region where I am is 98% Caucasian. Most of what I get kind no thank you's when I ask someone out. I think Asian women would be more open to me. Well there aren't many single Asian women within a hundred miles. Some Asian ladies I see on dating websites at the colleges located a couple hours away...but they are in their early 20s. I'm in my mid 30s. I keep hoping for a mature graduate student online there but haven't seen any ever.So every night I come home and do nothing, basically have given up. I want a marriage and a couple of kids. I tried eharmony twice for three months. That was a bust - no local replies. What should I do? Advice please!
ahhh the spud state.

you would probably do better in a major metropolitan area.

i *personally* would go out with an american asian. its weird saying that, but yeah, i mean in the past the major obstacles for me in dating a non-native were cultural, and that just wouldnt be the case with someone like you
 
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What are "dating websites at area colleges" -- the ones where you see Asian women? Are those just for the students there? You could try online dating on regular sites: EHarmony and others. Set your geographic preferences to cast a wider net.

Idaho is right next to Washington which has a thriving Asian community, right? Can you look over there?

Do you ever ask out non-Caucasian women? If you do, and have trouble with them also, then it could be the problem is not race/ethnicity but something about the way you approach them perhaps?

Don't just give up! If you want love, and especially if you want marriage/kids ... you're gonna have to work on this! Good luck! and welcome to eHA.
 
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What are "dating websites at area colleges" -- the ones where you see Asian women? Are those just for the students there? You could try online dating on regular sites: EHarmony and others. Set your geographic preferences to cast a wider net.

Idaho is right next to Washington which has a thriving Asian community, right? Can you look over there?

Do you ever ask out non-Caucasian women? If you do, and have trouble with them also, then it could be the problem is not race/ethnicity but something about the way you approach them perhaps?

Don't just give up! If you want love, and especially if you want marriage/kids ... you're gonna have to work on this! Good luck! and welcome to eHA.
In Seattle a number of my friends were inter-cultural couples where the male partner was Asian-American.

Idaho might possibly be even more geographically undesirable than my location.
 
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