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Sassafras54 is offline Sassafras54 — Advice Official Moderator Post #1  November 9,2011, 11:16am
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Very often in a thread here on eHA I have a clear reaction to what the OP is asking about; it seems obvious what they should do.

OP: "We've been running into each other (or chatting online) for a month and I want to go out with him ... how long should I wait for him to ask me out?"

Me: "You could ask him out, right? Otherwise all you can do is hint around, or wait, or give up on him."

Have I ever done that? Well, yeah, I've done it occasionally, but it's not my norm.

When you give advice here, do you say what you actually do in your real life, or do you say what you think the OP should do (and maybe what you think you should do!)?
 
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Sassafras54 wrote :
When you give advice here, do you say what you actually do in your real life, or do you say what you think the OP should do (and maybe what you think you should do!)?
I say what I have done in real life (usually illustated with a real life example), would do personally under similar circumstances...and/or what I honestly think the OP should do.

Not that they do it, of course, but that's not really the point...is it?

Now, if I were to follow my own advice...I might not be here at all.

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Both because many are hypothetical....mostly I wait for certain posters to chime in for comic relief...and classic one-liners.
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When you give advice here, do you say what you actually do in your real life, or do you say what you think the OP should do
 
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littlebluemonkeymind is offline littlebluemonkeymind Post #4  November 9,2011, 3:01pm
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Ha! If I actually followed my own advice I wouldn't have had nearly as many (mis)adventures.
 
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HowICIt is offline HowICIt Post #5  November 9,2011, 4:58pm

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Yeah, I do or at least add a disclaimer that this is something that you should probably do but something that I struggle with as well.
 
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I do some of each, depending on the question and the advice sought.

I commonly give advice that I do not personally follow, especially to men who want a course of action which maximizes the likelihood of getting a meeting or second meeting. For these posts, with clear goal stated, I will recommend a more aggressive and financially-generous posture than I personally use.

I also give advice on situations which do not apply in my life (divorce, children, STD, illnesses, widows ...)

There are some things I do that are contrary to advice I have given, such as giving women second chances for missing a meeting, and making multiple unanswered communication to a poofer.
 
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HowICIt is offline HowICIt Post #7  November 9,2011, 5:39pm

This is just how this female sees it. Your mileage may vary.

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D_Lion wrote :
I do some of each, depending on the question and the advice sought.

I commonly give advice that I do not personally follow, especially to men who want a course of action which maximizes the likelihood of getting a meeting or second meeting. For these posts, with clear goal stated, I will recommend a more aggressive and financially-generous posture than I personally use.

I also give advice on situations which do not apply in my life (divorce, children, STD, illnesses, widows ...)

There are some things I do that are contrary to advice I have given, such as giving women second chances for missing a meeting, and making multiple unanswered communication to a poofer.
I think that still falls under the camp of following your advice...

if I was in your position and I wanted what you wanted, then this is what I would do

that kind of camp.
 
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littlebluemonkeymind wrote :
Ha! If I actually followed my own advice I wouldn't have had nearly as many (mis)adventures.
No kidding, eh.

Plus, I don't have to follow my own advice when I can just come here and have people tell me what to think and do all the time, it's greeeat!

*strolls off in the grass ... la lalala lala la lala ... oh, look ponies!
Last edited by insertscreenname; November 17,2011 at 10:07am. Reason: Of course I'm being sarcastic! My advice is great I'd be fool not to follow it. *slicks back hair*
 
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lindseyk is offline lindseyk Post #9  November 17,2011, 12:55pm

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HowICIt wrote :
Yeah, I do or at least add a disclaimer that this is something that you should probably do but something that I struggle with as well.
Same here, unless it's a situation I've never experienced and then I think about what I would do in the same circumstances and post that.
 
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littlebluemonkeymind is offline littlebluemonkeymind Post #10  November 17,2011, 4:47pm
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insertscreenname wrote :
No kidding, eh.

Plus, I don't have to follow my own advice when I can just come here and have people tell me what to think and do all the time, it's greeeat!

*strolls off in the grass ... la lalala lala la lala ... oh, look ponies!
Well, I try - and I always do advise as I would *like* to think I do, although I often fall short of my own expectations and frequently I am easily confuzzled by shiny things and such.

But the ponies are always very distracting. I like the spotted ones best.
 
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