Would you have sex with someone you're not in a relationship with?


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harnomygirl is offline harnomygirl Post #151  November 3,2011, 2:35am
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Farajah wrote :
It means cigarette, to the British.
That definition makes it impossible to see the connection to local colloquial meaning. The moderator's definition provides enlightenment.
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Xable wrote :
I want to live in your world, because in mine, that simply isn't true.

The only experience I have with sex is where the guy leaves a week after. And the majority of my experience with guys is that they only are interested in me for a one night stand. As soon as I let them know that's not what I'm interested in, they are gone.

Granted, this might be a function of the sub-culture and area I live in.

So, yeah, call me crazy, but I try to go into these situations with my eyes wide open and unclouded to try to see what the guy's intentions are.

I don't care so much about the results - because no one can predict the future, what I care about is the guy's intention. And, you know what, when they are shady intentions they tend not to be upfront about that.
Sorry about being late to respond to this, X.

So, here's the thing. Decide up front what you want from him. If it's sex you desire, mutually agree that that is all it is ever going to be and manage the outcome so you are not feeling used. But be honest w/ yourself about what you want. Ultimately, in this scenario, you are not.

If it's a relationship you seek, keep your pants on... his intentions will reveal themselves.

Whatever happens, own the outcome and turn it into something with which you can live. Do NOT harbor feelings on self-deprecation, as that will give all the power of your actions to someone else... who does not deserve it!

Have I gotten myself in situations where I felt used? Yes! I don't know a single person who hasn't felt this way at one time or another (in some sense)... not one (both male and female)! Find a benefit to your action, own it, learn from it and move the hell on...

If all else fails, believing in karma helps... 'cause I also haven't known a single person whose intentions were to take advantage of someone/a situation who didn't get a payback somewhere else...
 
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OK let's get back to the topic, which is not sniping at each other, but instead is about whether you'd have sex with someone you're not in a relationship with.

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Sassafras54 wrote :
OK let's get back to the topic, which is not sniping at each other, but instead is about whether you'd have sex with someone you're not in a relationship with.

Thanks.
Sorry, Sass. Game, set, match. (That's a little tennis lingo for you.) Next!
 
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yes i have sex with my girlfriend and i was nervous what i do
 
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agencyomega wrote :
yes i have sex with my girlfriend and i was nervous what i do
Well, if she is your GF, then you are in a relationship.
 
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Wiseman2 is online now Wiseman2 Post #157  November 14,2011, 10:46am
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Lol......you only have to be 13 y/o to use the eHA site and can post from any phone anywhere from any country?...Wonder about some of these posts too...
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Well, if she is your GF, then you are in a relationship.
 
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Wiseman, you have to be 18 to use the eHA site.

Correction, you have to be 13 to "use" the site but 18 to "register" for services. Which, from my understanding, means that to post on the eHA site you must be 18. I will double check on that one. We have, in the past, removed threads started by those we know are under the age of 18.
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