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ISN, I think there is a test of HPV. I seem to remember something years ago at the local free clinic where they said they tested for it. Now, it could be that it was found unreliable or, that it was only a test if they found warts, but I think there is something that can detect it. But, back then HPV wasn't considered as horrible as it is today. No one had connected it to cancer.
 
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Perhaps there were tests performed in the past and maybe you're right, Andie, they were proven unreliable.

As far as I'm aware (and I'm by no means an authority, so take this for what it's worth), there are no tests currently accepted within the medical community for men or women that will detect non-cancerous, or what they call "low-risk", strains of genital HPV before a person develops symptoms (warts).

There are tests done for certain cancer-linked strains of HPV (women can get these with their pap smears, but you know that!). Perhaps since warts are benign and pose no health risk the majority of research has been done on the more dangerous cancer-related HPV strains? I don't know.

That's just speculation on my part.
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Getting back to the topic, here's a piece I saw recently and enjoyed:

What’s Your Number? Here’s Why I Don’t Care
 
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nick222 wrote :
Getting back to the topic, here's a piece I saw recently and enjoyed:

What’s Your Number? Here’s Why I Don’t Care
Thanks for the link, Nick. I notice that the article also mentions "quality" vs. "quantity" - which is the same point that several posters were trying to make in this thread.
 
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nick222 wrote :
Getting back to the topic, here's a piece I saw recently and enjoyed:

What’s Your Number? Here’s Why I Don’t Care
"Context matters"

This is what I was trying to get at. A woman with 10 partners sounds reasonable to me, but what if they were all relationships ranging from 1 night to 3 weeks. In contrast a woman with 1 partner would seem super low, until you find out it's the one she was married to for 25 years. IMO, there would be miles of difference in the attitudes as experience of these two women.

It seems to me that the number tells the story and the story tells the number, and to separate the two isn't a good thing to do, because you'll miss alot of information about the person.
 
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Perhaps there were tests performed in the past and maybe you're right, Andie, they were proven unreliable.

As far as I'm aware (and I'm by no means an authority, so take this for what it's worth), there are no tests currently accepted within the medical community for men or women that will detect non-cancerous, or what they call "low-risk", strains of genital HPV before a person develops symptoms (warts).

There are tests done for certain cancer-linked strains of HPV (women can get these with their pap smears, but you know that!). Perhaps since warts are benign and pose no health risk the majority of research has been done on the more dangerous cancer-related HPV strains? I don't know.

That's just speculation on my part.
Read an article this week about a sharp rise in oral cancer in men due to HPV.

A little disturbing to those of use that like oral with our women.
 
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