What Men Find Sexy About Women: The Top Ten List

What Men Find Sexy About Women: The Top Ten List

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lakeview1230 is offline lakeview1230 Post #1  July 29,2011, 4:51am
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I just talked to two moms yesterday...both talked about their sons...they just had a break up with a cheating girlfriend.  Why do men like bad girls...girls with an edge?  All the above attractions are good, but only if the apple has a good core---make sure other men are not taking bites.
 
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I just talked to two moms yesterday...both talked about their sons...they just had a break up with a cheating girlfriend.  Why do men like bad girls...girls with an edge?  All the above attractions are good, but only if the apple has a good core---make sure other men are not taking bites.
 
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I was very surprised to not see the one thing on here that I can't imagine any man not appreciating and or desiring with great fervor: Smarts! I know of no man, who's looking for something of substance, that doesn't put intelligence at the top of his list. If not Must-Have #1, then at least the second.

Great kissing, understanding a man, being open to new experiences, etc. are all great, but if the two people can't connect on a mutually intellectual level, what depth of connection can there actually be? Consequently, what chance can there be that this will be a lasting endeavor?
 
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I can think of plenty of men who are not attracted to intelligence in a woman - those are the men who are not AS intelligent as the woman. It makes them feel not good enough, not smart enough, like the woman will eventually lose interest in them.
 
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Scruffy_Nerfherder wrote :
I was very surprised to not see the one thing on here that I can't imagine any man not appreciating and or desiring with great fervor: Smarts! I know of no man, who's looking for something of substance, that doesn't put intelligence at the top of his list. If not Must-Have #1, then at least the second.

Great kissing, understanding a man, being open to new experiences, etc. are all great, but if the two people can't connect on a mutually intellectual level, what depth of connection can there actually be? Consequently, what chance can there be that this will be a lasting endeavor?
Most men think you're smart if you agree with them. You have to understand that although you might have above average intelligence, the average person (man) does not. Don't judge other people so harshly for their choices and preferences. Be tolerant and understanding.
 
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I don't agree with the list. But I think that's the problem in generalizing.

I kind of steer clear of women who "have no fear". I avoid any woman that mindlessly laughs at what I say. I'd rather have banter than an audience. I agree with intelligence being at the top. If I can't respect a woman, it will show. She doesn't have to be a rocket scientist but if we're not comparable mind-wise then it won't work.

Beauty comes after knowing someone. People that are so shallow as to want physical beauty at #2 obviously must be young. Someone that is physically beautiful but a rotten person isn't beautiful.

In a way the list sounds like "Top ten things a women thinks a man wants in a woman". But all men are different so I can't speak for every one of them.
 
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brianthebrain wrote :
. She doesn't have to be a rocket scientist.

Whew!

Beauty comes after knowing someone. Someone that is physically beautiful but a rotten person isn't beautiful.

This made me think of a quote I used to see around the boards. "You don't love her because she's beautiful, she's beautiful because you love her." So sweet!
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brianthebrain wrote :
In a way the list sounds like "Top ten things a women thinks a man wants in a woman". But all men are different so I can't speak for every one of them.
Totally agree. This sounds like it should be in the latest issue of Cosmo.

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Those are all pretty good. I really couldn't see how any guy wouldn't like any of those things. I don't know many men who require smarts as part of a top ten list like someone mentioned. Not everyone can be born smart. Me, I'd much rather rate "kindness" over "smarts" by a WIDE margin (you know... after chest size, blue eyes, blonde hair, and all that better stuff).
 
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lakeview1230 wrote :
I just talked to two moms yesterday...both talked about their sons...they just had a break up with a cheating girlfriend. Why do men like bad girls...girls with an edge? All the above attractions are good, but only if the apple has a good core---make sure other men are not taking bites.
Three things:
You really think the sons told their moms the whole (true) story?
You really think the sons were sweet innocent cherubs?
I would think that the guys (not all) that gravitate to "bad" girls are either: bad them selves or looking to mix things up with a little adventure... being the "nice guy" can get boring / lonely (or so I've heard)


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I can think of plenty of men who are not attracted to intelligence in a woman - those are the men who are not AS intelligent as the woman. It makes them feel not good enough, not smart enough, like the woman will eventually lose interest in them.
Low self esteem / misplaced value system: desire / need to feel "better"
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Most men think you're smart if you agree with them. You have to understand that although you might have above average intelligence, the average person (man) does not. Don't judge other people so harshly for their choices and preferences. Be tolerant and understanding.
"Most men"...
I might change to "Most people"
As for me, I perceive people as intelligent when the can (and do) logically challenge me... can still remember my first date (ever) like it was yesterday- after watching a movie, heatedly debated logging (I actually argued for it, though I am for it only in very limited ways). Thinking I had screwed the date up, I made no "romantic" advances, but then at my truck, she kissed me good night... why I did not marry that girl I have no idea (oh, that's right, 2days later, accident coma did not "functionally" wake for about 10 years, remembered her over 20 years later, found is married with kids She never knew about accident, she thought I had "poofed". Ahh-ha! the reason I have such a problem with people being overly prone to quickly accusing others of "poofing"? Sounds quite viable to me... honestly never realized that till now.

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You have to understand that although you might have above average intelligence, the average person (man) does not.
First, I very much appreciate the use of "person" (though I think should have been followed by "(man/woman)", even though article is about men). Though one may have to change speaking style to communicate with another, NEVER feel you have to pretend you are something "you" are not

"Don't judge other people so harshly for their choices and preferences. Be tolerant and understanding"

Amen! (though I might amend to simply "don't judge people".... you just never really know / know when you know the whole story)
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