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My guess is, he went back after he learned she'd broken up with the guy (or, more likely, never 'left') and begged for a second bite at the proverbial apple.

She'd moved on ...he couldn't (or wouldn't) ...and, yeah, that's 'creeper' behavior.
It wasn't that simple. I wouldn't say I begged, and I wouldn't say I stuck around. I had my share of fun with other women after she flaked and had moved on. That didn't change the fact that I felt wronged. It seemed right to throw her out of my life completely even though she felt guilty over it. Seeing other women took my mind off the whole thing, and her knowledge of this seemed to trouble her deeply; we'd known each other for quite some time. After the situation boiled over, we did start seeing each other again, sometimes alone. Yes, she would cancel plans with the other guy to see me.

Anyone reading this who doesn't realize that feelings for another person cannot simply be wished away, I very much doubt they have a heartbeat. Or a heart for that manner.

Truth be told, I was one of the first to hear she had broken up with the other guy. By that time I was already tied up with someone else. It made little sense to jump at the opportunity and find myself in the same situation with her all over again. I didn't make any attempt at winning her back. She was in a new relationship soon enough.

Months onward, we both made the mistake of drinking together. I didn't regret kissing her at, at least at first. A sizable amount of people became wary of me from that point on. I can only assume she spilled the beans. It was for the best, because we are no longer in each other's lives.

Yes, I realize this location is not the ideal venue for solving this issue. Despite that, I've been physically ill over this for quite some time; I really needed to get this off my chest, out of my system. The healing process seems to be taking its course just by getting it all 'on paper'.
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BikerBeagle wrote :
So, from what I gather, you basically want a woman who is interested in you enough to ...well, essentially chase you, initiate and throw herself at you on your terms and when you have time ...while leaving you alone and being perfectly happy with the crumbs of time and attention you can provide to her outside of your busy work schedule.

I have a solution for you ...she's called a prostitute.
That's a major leap to conclusions you've made there. When I did make time for her, she suddenly wasn't available. It takes two to tango. It's a fair call to say that if she meant enough to me, I would have taken more risks and made more opportunities to see her BEFORE she started flaking out. Preventative maintenance, if you will.

It's a mistake I made and I have to live with it.
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speaking from experience - you're right the feelings can't be washed away but the only way to save yourself from someone like this is to delete their number and have no further contact.

otherwise you could be on 'rinse and repeat' with the woman for months or years. do you want women to come back to you everytime they get dumped for an emotional boost? I've found you gain a lot by being stronger and by rejecting them.
 
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