nightling is offline nightling Post #1  July 26,2011, 3:44pm
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But the sexes differed about paying for dates, at least in the early stages. More women, 38 percent, think each should pay their own way, versus 33 percent who think men should foot the bill. But 59 percent of men think they should cover the tab, at least until a relationship is established.

Nearly half of men questioned in the poll of 70,000 people said they would ditch a partner who gained weight, compared to only 20 percent of women.

But the survey also found 39 percent of men chose family as their top choice of the ultimate status symbol. By contrast, 43 percent of women selected a beautiful home, compared to only 6.5 percent of men. One-quarter of women named a successful partner as a top status symbol.

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Half of men would ditch woman who gained weight - poll - Yahoo! News
 
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nightling wrote :
. But 59 percent of men think they should cover the tab, at least until a relationship is established.
Thanks for sharing! Perhaps I will use this as my guide as to when to start paying for dates.
 
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This is timely for me. When I met my bf first date, he picked up the tab and said, I'll get this and if we do this again, you can get it next time. SO, the next time, I did. From there on it went roughly 50/50 maybe more like 60/40 for about 4 months.

But now, as the relationship goes on, he insists on paying and if I try to pay he'll argue with me about it. This seems contrary to what all the boards say and most people say which is that as a reltaionhsip gets established, it becomes more 50/50. Funny thing, I went through this exact same thing with my last bf who insisted on always paying.

I can't really figure it out, so am I supposed to just let him pay all the time to satisfy a "provider instinct" or am I supposed to fight for the privledge of paying the bill????
 
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The problem with numbers is that the wrong numbers are used in the wrong places:

Police: You know what you did wrong?

Frog: If 98% of people demonstrate their opinion of 55 by ignoring it, the correct speed limit is 5,390 MPH.

Woman: I want a beautiful home!

Frog: That takes a lot of cleaning.

Woman: On second thought, a successful partner.

Frog: I successfully got the hammock up ...
 
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Oh, for Pete's sake! The survey is of people who went to the Cosmopolitan and "AskMen" sites to fill it out. It's not even remotely generalizable to men and women in general. They don't even bother to describe the characteristsics of the surveyed population, so we don't even have any idea who they're talking about... .

It's like all those surveys by OKCupid that people keep citing as though they are scientific and the results mean something important. They may be "interesting," but don't make the mistake of thinking that the data are very meaningful when it comes to describing anything but a very narrowly defined population (albeit one not even described in the reports). And, they are of limited generalizability even to that group....

I would take the results of the surveys reported in this article with a grain of salt...
 
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neardc wrote :
It's like all those surveys by OKCupid that people keep citing as though they are scientific and the results mean something important.
Wait! You mean I spent all of that precious time reading OKCupid surveys for....*gulp*....nothing?!
 
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When I had a few dates, I found that if I asked him to dinner I paid because I asked him. If he asked me to dinner then he paid. I think that's fair. If a man wants to pay all the time, and you want to, I would then ask him over for a home cooked meal. That way you buy something great and fix it. Maybe by doing this, you will feel like you are contributing.
 
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I think an AskMen survey would be a good representation of what a certain portion of single 20-something and early 30-something men think. Half of the guys in the survey are single. So what they think they'd do in a relationship if a girlfriend got fat vs what they'd actually do is a bit up in the air for me.

However. I was most shocked at how few shoes men say they have. 4-6 pairs? Wha? How can that be? In my relationships I've always had to fight like a wildcat to throw out pair after pair of dude's drecky old shoes! 46% of these guys own 4-6 pairs? No freaking way.

And 19% claim they only have 1-3 pairs!!
 
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And 19% claim they only have 1-3 pairs!!
Those would be the ones who only count the shoes they either 1) actually wear or 2) have in their apartment, as all the other pairs are in their car or at their girlfriend's so she can trip over tennis shoes and boots the size of a jack russell (is this too obviously a sore spot?)
 
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Those would be the ones who only count the shoes they either 1) actually wear or 2) have in their apartment, as all the other pairs are in their car or at their girlfriend's so she can trip over tennis shoes and boots the size of a jack russell (is this too obviously a sore spot?)
Yep yep yep. Because his shoes "got wet when it rained" (over a week ago) "so they had to be left in the entryway to dry." Along with several other pairs and a bone dry mini umbrella. Yep. lol
 
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