SummerVacation is offline SummerVacation Post #11  July 21,2011, 10:38pm
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Most other people are too focused on themselves and/or worried what YOU are thinking of them. Also...

No one else knows your past. Twelve years later NO ONE is talking about teenage social lives or high school accomplishments (except that baseball player Bruce Springsteen sings about in "Glory Days.")

You've moved on, so leave that label behind. It's who you are NOW and where you're headed that's attractive to a match. Shed the baggage of the past holding you back. You are social. You are witty. You are funny. Go For IT!
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EstherM is offline EstherM Post #12  July 22,2011, 11:25pm
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adventure714 wrote :
I do try my best to connect with people, but in the back of my head I think that I'm invading their privacy by asking things like their interests or asking them questions in order to get to know them.
Just a quick thought on this idea: Do you know anyone who you think has wonderful social skills? Maybe make a point of observing how they show an interest in other people. How do they ask another person about themselves without it sounding like they're invading privacy?

And another thought - do you see a dividing line between polite interest and prying? Or is any question seem like an invasion of privacy to you? If you do think it's possible to politely show an interest in another person's life, then start from there and slowly build your repertoire of things you are interested in knowing about other people.

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