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If my life could be a Chinese fortune cookie, it would read, today, "Beware He Who Sends Roses Before First Date"

Met a guy at a restaurant on Friday night. He was there with his friend, and I was there with my girlfriend. Casual encounter, but we hung out with the guys and talked all night. Talked about their divorces, etc. Or at least, I thought the word divorce was said.

Yeah. You know where this is going.

The dude sent me roses to work, in anticipation of our first date this week. But first date happened, and, guess what? He's still married! Yeah, he's separated, but that doesn't count in my world. He hasn't even filed for divorce yet!

To make it even stickier, he said he's left her two other times, once to live with a girl "on and off" for three years. But always goes back. I said, "I hope you don't go back this time since you're obviously not happy" and he said, "Yeah, I hope I don't, either."

See what happens whenever I try to meet men in "real" life vs. online? There is always some major flaw!
 
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lunabeach is offline lunabeach Post #2  July 14,2011, 11:50am
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scully98 wrote :
Or at least, I thought the word divorce was said.
Been there. Any kind of shadiness with time lines makes me suspicious now.
 
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I remember reading a comment of yours like just yesterday where you were so excited about the roses. That just bites!
 
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tjlpd is offline tjlpd Post #4  July 14,2011, 12:25pm
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I was so jealous of your roses. Now, not so much. Sorry!
 
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Sorry to hear that. At least you can still enjoy the roses
 
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I'm still trying to get over the audacity of people who think saying something like that is a real charmer. His roses should have come with at least a small warning disclaimer like you see on the pharmaceutical commercials.

I met a woman like that who told me the love of her life was the guy she had an affair on her husband with recently. Oh, and by the way, she was "getting separated" and not even out of the house yet....

What's even more disturbing is knowing there are people who will actually date someone after they find out this kind of information.
 
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Scully - sorry that happened with this guy... but I think I would be a little skeptical of any guy who sends flowers - and roses too! - before we have even had a first date! (This applies whether we have met in person or not). It's like he's trying too hard.

Besides, I read somewhere recently where men only send flowers to apologize... or after great sex!
 
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That is unfortunate, my friend.
 
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mitchell175 wrote :
Besides, I read somewhere recently where men only send flowers ... or after great sex!

What?!? now I have to send myself flowers??
 
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