Beware he who sends roses

Aww, scully, sorry to hear this. Well at least the roses are pretty, and the guy whose away traveling will be back soon eh?

Raw_Truth, your perception deserves a separate thread.

Scully, most people are good people.

Your thread has actually thrown me sideways. The thought that someone could send roses without sincerity is beyond my comprehension.

so he seems to be starved for love and tries to latch onto whoever he can.

so I think he sent the roses thinking he was falling for me and wanted to show his obsession.

I used to think men sending/giving me flowers was uber-romantic and wonderful. These days I am realizing how silly that is.

well, I would not go that far...
What was suspect here was the timing(oh, and the fact he was still married...yeah..)that..and his history of latching onto women...
Over the years, I had routinely sent flowers to my then wife..and ya know something?...not once did she think it was silly.

If my life could be a Chinese fortune cookie, it would read, today, "Beware He Who Sends Roses Before First Date"

Met a guy at a restaurant on Friday night. He was there with his friend, and I was there with my girlfriend. Casual encounter, but we hung out with the guys and talked all night. Talked about their divorces, etc. Or at least, I thought the word divorce was said.

Yeah. You know where this is going.

The dude sent me roses to work, in anticipation of our first date this week. But first date happened, and, guess what? He's still married! Yeah, he's separated, but that doesn't count in my world. He hasn't even filed for divorce yet!

To make it even stickier, he said he's left her two other times, once to live with a girl "on and off" for three years. But always goes back. I said, "I hope you don't go back this time since you're obviously not happy" and he said, "Yeah, I hope I don't, either."

See what happens whenever I try to meet men in "real" life vs. online? There is always some major flaw!

well, for what it's worth, he thought he was sincere. he sees himself as "the same as divorced" to quote him and he saw me, talked to me, thought he was falling for me and sent me roses and asked me out.

in the three hours we were together the other night before I found out he was married, he talked to me about wanting to see me again next month (was going to fly here) and he was going to fly out for Thanksgiving, and he told me he hoped we could have a couple of kids together, etc.

it was kinda crazy, I was just sitting there, thinking, "whoa....he can't be serious about wanting kids with me already" and then when I asked the divorce question and he confessed, and I told him no way, was when he told me he was already in love with me.

he explained his childhood a bit to me - terrible parenting situation, no love from his parents, he's been married twice - once to a woman who he married because she loved HIM so much, not vice-versa, and that didn't last, and then his current wife, who doesn't show him any affection and who has a boyfriend she goes to california to visit every summer.

so he seems to be starved for love and tries to latch onto whoever he can.

so I think he sent the roses thinking he was falling for me and wanted to show his affection.

if that makes it renew your hope at all in romance. doesn't do a whole lot for mine, but oh well...I'm still feeling jaded at the moment!