Shimmyjimmy is offline Shimmyjimmy Post #1  July 8,2011, 10:04am
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I was wondering people's thoughts on this.. I am in my late twenties and ok will being single(i.e. I've not reached the desperate phase yet) and throughout my dating life and from past experiences I have taken note of the type of woman I would most like to be with, of course drawing from biblical examples and proverbs 31.. So I have in my mind created this 'dream woman' if you will, and she may not be everyone's dream woman but she is what I most desire.. Is this a realistic 'dream' or will reality bite me in the rear?
 
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mitchell175 is offline mitchell175 Post #2  July 8,2011, 10:13am
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That depends on what your "dream" is. Is this "dream woman" specific to height, weight, hair color, eye color, voice, mannerisms, occupation... etc?

In that case, you're being way too specific! And you may have difficulty finding this exact "dream woman".

However, if you've just formulated a list of traits that she needs to have: kindness, sense of humor, ambition, non-smoking, good with kids... etc. then you'll have a much better chance to find what you are looking for. That "dream woman" can come in many different packages.
 
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Have you ever met a woman remotely like your ideal? If not, your dream may not be realistic. Also, ask yourself: Would your ideal woman be interested in dating you--as you are now? If yes, go get her! If no, you might need to work on yourself a bit before you can attract the attention of such a person.
 
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You may have set the bar too high with Proverbs 31.
 
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Don't idealize the vision of your dream woman. What mitchell wrote is spot on. Life has a way of surprising you and most of the time, the person we fall in love with - well let's just say it's one of life's good surprises!
 
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Many women use Proverbs 31 as their guide for being a good wife. Few can live up to that so if you want perfection you won't find it. Hopefully you understand this and just want someone with the same values to whom you are physically attracted. You're most likely to meet her at church functions so attend as many as you can in different areas and be friendly to the females you meet. Once you get older it will be more difficult. Start traveling now and join more than one site to expand your opportunities.
 
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[quote=Shimmyjimmy;1378866]I have taken note of the type of woman I would most like to be with, of course drawing from biblical examples and proverbs 31.quote]

I'm not religious. I'm happy to weigh in if you give some examples of what this dream girl might be like. I think Helen has some good points though. Have you seen any women who you feel uphold these standards? (This doesn't have to be someone you've dated.) As she said, knowing if this is someone who is likely to be interested in you is helpful as well.

I don't think it hurts to learn from past dating experiences and have an idea of what you want as long as you're not being so closed minded that you're shutting out other possibilities of what might be good for you. Or putting all your eggs in a basket that in the end, may not bring you happiness.
 
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What is this dream woman? Is it based on reality
 
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Here's the relevant proverb--

Proverbs 31 wrote :
A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.[
 
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Considering verses 13-17, you're going to have your best chances in a conservative farming community. There aren't a whole lot of women matching this proverb who live in big cities.

You have big shoes to fill--

"Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
"

amy1uwant wrote :
What is this dream woman? Is it based on reality
Not so much.

The thread title says it all. Perfection is the thing of fantasies.
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