Walter649 is offline Walter649 Post #1  June 29,2011, 3:38pm
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Why do women constantly get back together with the same guy over and over when that guy has done them wrong the same way over and over? Example- I know a girl who keeps hooking back up with her ex, who from what I hear has been sleeping with other women the entire time they've gone out. And there's been times that she knew about these women and still stayed with him. (I want the grab her by the shoulders and ask her what is wrong with you?) Why do women do this?
 
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Often I think it is low-self-esteem and lack of confidence to do better.
 
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Why do women do this?
For the most part they want to be the one who changes him..
Some like the challenge, and the thought of winning.

Wasn't there just an article about this??

 
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because they are idiots? emotionally immature?
 
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Because they love him and can't stop. That's what they always say. The memories of some golden time they enjoyed in the past make them believe they could get back to that state--if they just do the right thing or try that bit harder.

It's the same as how heroin addicts are constantly craving and trying to recreate their first high. And it never happens again. But the memory of that rush is so powerful and sometimes they get so close. It's an addiction.
 
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Because they love him. Love sometimes makes people stupid.
 
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Because they truly want to believe that things will be different "this time". As helendanger touched on, it's similar to the cycle experienced with a drug addiction. Very, very sad!
 
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Xable wrote :
Because they love him. Love sometimes makes people stupid.
I have been stupid through love.

I'm glad I had a grand passion, an amour fou, a great big old haphazard love affair ~ and equally glad it's all behind me now.

Onwards and upwards.
 
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Not all women do that.
I have never went back to an old relationship. For me personally it's easier to move on from a relationship than to emotionally struggle with the same issues over and over. In my case, if a relationship is over, it means there were significant issues attempted to be resolved multiple times but without success. Once it's over, there is no going back.
 
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Walter649 wrote :
Why do women constantly get back together with the same guy over and over when that guy has done them wrong the same way over and over?
For the same reason women stay with/get back together with men who are emotionally and/or physically abusive.

1) They started out with little or no self-esteem
2) They had their sense of self-worth knocked out of them
3) They are financially dependent on the guy
4) They are terrified of being alone and would rather be in a terrible relationship than no relationship.
5) Some women relish being the 'victim.'

All these (and probably more I haven't thought of) demonstrate serious characters flaws. Sadly, these types of women seem to have no desire to break the viscous cycle.
 
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