Has anyone ever had a real life encounter with a match they closed


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MMingE is offline MMingE Post #1  June 22,2011, 11:53am
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I'm not talking about a planned face-to-face meeting or date but rather had a real life encounter with somebody who you closed (or closed you). It happened to me once, I had been exchanging messages with this girl who happened to live close to where I live. We chatted for a few weeks and then she disappeared without closing me, before I even had a chance to see if I she wanted to meet me.

Several months later, I was in church of all places and sitting in the front was the same girl who had disappeared on me. I thought about going over and talking to her after the mass was over but I thought it would be too weird. Interestingly, I have been back to this church several times since then and I haven't seen her there since. Has this happened to anyone else ?
 
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Recently a friend introduced me to a guy friend of hers. I couldn't help but think how he looked very familiar, but I couldn't figure out why.

Then I realized that he was an EH match whom I had closed earlier. It happens. Probably not too often, but it happens.
 
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I have had on occasion gotten someone who I was matched with or communicated with on another site.

It has happened quite often...especially if you live close to your home town. You will likely be matched with someone you knew in highschool or a woman who was an ex of a friend or your sisters friend. It is a higher probability if its a smaller town or more restrictive search based on distance.
 
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Ha, that's funny. I'm not sure I would recognize anyone I had closed, not counting the ones I went out with or already knew before being matched with them, of course. With as many matches as I had, though, the odds are very good that it has happened without me realizing it.

Was there something distinctive about this woman's appearance that caused you to recognize her?
 
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ami1uwant wrote :
You will likely be matched with someone you knew in highschool or a woman who was an ex of a friend or your sisters friend. It is a higher probability if its a smaller town or more restrictive search based on distance.
I had this happen several times. I live in a large metro area and had my settings set pretty wide most of the time (there are probably 10-12 million people within the distance I set), so I don't think it's just a small town thing.

I think what the OP is referring to is something else, though. It's easy to recognize someone on eH when you already know them in person, but it seems much less likely to recognize someone in person just from having seen their picture on eH.
 
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Yes one of my first eH matches last year was a colleague from work who sits right near me. Back then we had close reasons so I used the distance reason and sent him a funny email.

I saw another guy at an intramural sporting event. He just kept looking at me and I could tell he was trying to figure out where he'd seen me but I recognized him right off.
 
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I am not very good at recognizing people from photos so I probably would not recognize anyone that I had not met. And if I had only had one date I would probably not recognize them.

I have been matched to someone who I first met here on the Advice boards. That was about 3 years ago.
 
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No...but a couple who propositioned me on okc happened to be shopping at the same cell phone store a week later. They kept looking at me and I couldn't figure out why, then it clicked. I was with a friend, so we just moved to the opposite end of the store.
 
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Not quite but I did meet a woman last year via E.H. who started talking about the posts I'd made on the UK version of this forum.

She referred to my comments on the forum about how people should be allowed to have personal preferences regarding size (it was one of those 'fat' type of threads) and it wasn't a comfortable experience!
 
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SteveManchesterEngland wrote :
She referred to my comments on the forum about how people should be allowed to have personal preferences regarding size (it was one of those 'fat' type of threads) and it wasn't a comfortable experience!
That's one reason I've never understood why people to choose to put identifying information (names, locations, photos, etc.) on sites like this. Anything that is tied to you online is there forever, as a public record for anyone wanting to find it. There's a part of me that admires the bravery, though, I suppose.
 
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