I wouldn't want to hang around James Bond or Jason Bourne. Baaaad things happen to those Bond girls and Bourne's girlfriends.
Cool as an overall attitude often seems like an affectation. Passion and intensity and quirks are much more interesting.
The last "cool" hipster person I went out with made fun of me because I got the name of a Steinbeck novel mixed up. It hurt.
Agreed, Helen. Passion and intensity and quirks are yummy. Affected 'coolness' is not. I don't think men give nearly enough credit to the female intuition and its power to sniff-out 'real.' If they did, most would find themselves with more women than they could handle.
I don't care about "cool" in a guy - probably because I am really not "cool" myself. I laugh at the wrong things. I trip over stuff. I wear my heart on my sleeve. All things that don't give off that "cool" vibe.
As LadyHoosier said, instead I go for "real". I may not be cool, but I'm real. (Just not real cool).
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