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My $0.02 on one benefit of eHA for me.

I am in a relationship which I fully expect will continue into marriage in less than a year so I am free of any effects of trying to find some one, of dating, or trying to find a date.

As I read the posts in eHA, making inferences from these posts about the kinds of people out there looking and the issues they have, I am relieved to know I have found someone. Furthermore, having found someone who is free of the issues, traits, and baggage implied by many of the posts here.

Reading eHA posts is for me a form of relationship catharsis.

Perhaps, along the way, I also can provide some helpful input to those in need.
 
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eha_answer_man wrote :
I am in a relationship which I fully expect will continue into marriage in less than a year so I am free of any effects of trying to find some one, of dating, or trying to find a date.

As I read the posts in eHA, making inferences from these posts about the kinds of people out there looking and the issues they have, I am relieved to know I have found someone. Furthermore, having found someone who is free of the issues, traits, and baggage implied by many of the posts here.
Sorry, I'm kinda new still and I'm not sure how to track back other things I've read so forgive me if I'm mistaken but are you the person who is going to another country to meet your "wife to be" for the first time to propose? I've read so many posts, I can't keep track.
 
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EHA man...while I am happy for you...as I mentioned on another post...you and I have a total opposite meaning of 'being in a relationship'...

As you are engaged to a woman you have never met, is learning English and is waiting to get a VISA to come to the US...(this is info from your posts)

So...to compare to others here with 'real' relationships...as in...people who they are meeting in real life...and attempting to learn about both emotionally, physically, and intellectually..I don't think is too fair...

Of course your 'relationship' is going to be pretty baggage free right now...is that without meeting...there isn't much to go wrong...you are basing everything on written words and some video chats once in awhile...

So..again...while I wish you luck...I think you are comparing apples to oranges for most people who come on EHA for assistance...
 
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Ingytravel wrote :
EHA man...while I am happy for you...as I mentioned on another post...you and I have a total opposite meaning of 'being in a relationship'...

As you are engaged to a woman you have never met, is learning English and is waiting to get a VISA to come to the US...(this is info from your posts)

So...to compare to others here with 'real' relationships...as in...people who they are meeting in real life...and attempting to learn about both emotionally, physically, and intellectually..I don't think is too fair...

Of course your 'relationship' is going to be pretty baggage free right now...is that without meeting...there isn't much to go wrong...you are basing everything on written words and some video chats once in awhile...

So..again...while I wish you luck...I think you are comparing apples to oranges for most people who come on EHA for assistance...
And you're still making assumptions which is something people often do to make the world fit into their desired view of how they want it to be.

Those given to making assumptions also have difficulty comprehending or relating to the lives of those who have learned to understand the world without making assumptions.

See "Sherlock Holmes" or the work of Albert Einstein to gain some understanding of what it means to see the world without making assumptions.
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I've found the information and opinions expressed on a variety of relationship subjects to be helpful. Sure there are people with issues - who doesn't have them? I've learned a tremendous amount and thoroughly appreciate the advice offered. I think with time and some common sense, you learn to separate the wheat from the chaff.

While me eHarmony experience wasn't anything to write home about, finding these Advice Boards has been a godsend.
 
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eha_answer_man wrote :
And you're still making assumptions which is something people often do to make the world fit into their desired view of how they want it to be.

Those given to making assumptions also have difficulty comprehending or relating to the lives of those who have learned to understand the world without making assumptions.

See "Sherlock Holmes" or the work of Albert Einstein to gain some understanding of what it means to see the world without making assumptions.
What am I assuming? I am going on exactly what you posted in another thread...you say she is your fiance....you say you are going to meet her for the first time coming up soon....you say you have been 'chatting' online for about a year....you say she is learning English...and you say she is waiting on a VISA...

So tell me...or us...what is not true from what you had written?
 
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Folks, can we please keep this thread on track? The topic is a benefit of eHA. Other opinions and ideas are welcome, but please start a new thread or talk about it privately. Thank you.
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Folks, can we please keep this thread on track? The topic is a benefit of eHA. Other opinions and ideas are welcome, but please start a new thread or talk about it privately. Thank you.
Sorry..posted at the same time...I was just responding to his post saying I am making assumptions...I will be good
 
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eha_answer_man wrote :
As I read the posts in eHA, making inferences from these posts about the kinds of people out there looking and the issues they have, I am relieved to know I have found someone. Furthermore, having found someone who is free of the issues, traits, and baggage implied by many of the posts here.

Reading eHA posts is for me a form of relationship catharsis.

Perhaps, along the way, I also can provide some helpful input to those in need.
Everyone has their own baggage. Everyone. And anybody who tells you otherwise is trying to sell you something.
 
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Mr_Right wrote :
Everyone has their own baggage. Everyone. And anybody who tells you otherwise is trying to sell you something.
You are absolutely right about that Mr_Right
 
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