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Everyone has their own baggage. Everyone. And anybody who tells you otherwise is trying to sell you something.
Just not the kind being unpacked here...and it is largely a matter of degrees.
 
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Mr_Right wrote :
Everyone has their own baggage. Everyone. And anybody who tells you otherwise is trying to sell you something.
Yep...there is no such thing as the perfect 'relationship'...or perfect man or woman...

It's about two people...spending time with one another on dates..and over the months being together....seeing if you match on the core things of having a physical, emotional, and intellectual connection...

It's about being together and seeing them after a bad day at work...a disappointment in their life...when someone doesn't feel well....seeing if you can have fun even doing the mundane things together like shopping for groceries...cleaning the house...etc...

After awhile...it's hopefully seeing that even with some differences...as who would want a clone of themselves...lol...that you can work things out through the bumps...and share joy in the good times...

But every relationship can hit bumps...that's when some people come to EHA....or they are new to online 'dating'...and are misunderstanding how it works...or figuring out when to go on the first date...etc...all sorts of reasons...

So, to the OP,.since your situation is not like anything I have actually run across since I've been on EHA...I think it's not fair to judge others or look down on then because they have a bump in the road..
 
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eha_answer_man wrote :
Just not the kind being unpacked here...and it is largely a matter of degrees.
Please enlighten us with the story of eternal happiness found ...that is to say, when you finally meet this woman, and spend a few days in her presence.. ok?

I'll leave the light on for ya.
 
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Romantic dreams are like battle plans.

They rarely survive the first meeting completely intact. (paraphrasing Churchill)
 
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KikiAZ wrote :
Romantic dreams are like battle plans.

They rarely survive the first meeting completely intact. (paraphrasing Churchill)
So true! My eH date tonight has six photos--

If photo #1 shows up I'm in love.

If photo #3, #4, #5, or #6 show up we'll see where it goes.

If photo #2 shows up I may have to walk!

We've texted for over a month, but I don't have any illusions that I know more than the few bits she's chosen to reveal.
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eha_answer_man wrote :
My $0.02 on one benefit of eHA for me.

I am in a relationship which I fully expect will continue into marriage in less than a year so I am free of any effects of trying to find some one, of dating, or trying to find a date.

As I read the posts in eHA, making inferences from these posts about the kinds of people out there looking and the issues they have, I am relieved to know I have found someone. Furthermore, having found someone who is free of the issues, traits, and baggage implied by many of the posts here.

Reading eHA posts is for me a form of relationship catharsis.

Perhaps, along the way, I also can provide some helpful input to those in need.
Actually, expecting that your now successful relationship will always stay that way is rather naive. Just think of it this way, did you want the same things in life 5 years ago, or 10 years ago? Does what made you happy 10 years ago make you happy now? Any relationship is dynamics between two people who continue to grow, evolve, adapt to live's changes.

For me, reading eH advice forums allows to broaden my perspectives about people I meet or may meet. However, I always try to stay true to myself regardless whether I agree with other opinions or not, because this is the only way I can be sure I won't have regrets. Of course, there are some posts that I see as irrelevant, but those that have wise and brilliant thoughts are the ones I remember and learn from, these that would take me long time to come to realizing on my own.
 
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Like brneyedangel said: the topic is 'a benefit of EHA'. I have had to delete several posts that went elsewhere. Please stay on topic. Thanks!

The main benefit of eHA for me is that it ended up becoming a job for me. LOL! But prior to that, when I was a member ... posting here is like looking at candid snapshots of oneself. It can be very surprising to find out how I come across to people sometimes, or how my thinking is different from others'. There's a very wide variety of people here, who often are revealing deep parts of themselves, and that's a goldmine for learning about the world outside my own head.
 
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