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beccaf87 is offline beccaf87 Post #1  June 13,2011, 2:04pm
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I was talking to a friend today and she was telling me how almost every time she sees her boyfriend he buys her a present. She says she feels like she is getting spoiled but is fine with it. I asked if she did the same for him and she said no because he doesn't want anything.

Personally I would feel uncomfortable if my SO was buying me presents all the time. Especially if I wasn't doing the same in return.

How do you feel about receiving presents? Giving them? How much is too much?
 
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I think it is called nest building syndrome, google it.
 
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It depends on the nature of the presents. I spend a fair amount of time doing arts and crafts and will give things like friendship bracelets and beadwork to a SO that likes that kind of thing pretty regularly. I'm pretty comfortable receiving stuff like that too.

But, I wouldn't do something like go buy a gift just to have something to give regularly. I'm not very comfortable receiving same either.
 
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I did this with a gf and yes, it spoils them. There comes a point where he won't get her a little someting and she'll expect it, then the proverbial stuff is going to hit the fan........
 
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gregs4fun wrote :
I think it is called nest building syndrome, google it.
All I could find was empty-nest syndrome

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It depends on the nature of the presents. I spend a fair amount of time doing arts and crafts and will give things like friendship bracelets and beadwork to a SO that likes that kind of thing pretty regularly. I'm pretty comfortable receiving stuff like that too.

But, I wouldn't do something like go buy a gift just to have something to give regularly. I'm not very comfortable receiving same either.
I enjoying making things or making cookies. I like doing small little things. With some occasional bigger things.

We began the conversation about how financially responsible he is, but that he spends a lot of money buying her gifts.
 
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beccaf87 wrote :
I was talking to a friend today and she was telling me how almost every time she sees her boyfriend he buys her a present. She says she feels like she is getting spoiled but is fine with it. I asked if she did the same for him and she said no because he doesn't want anything.

Personally I would feel uncomfortable if my SO was buying me presents all the time. Especially if I wasn't doing the same in return.

How do you feel about receiving presents? Giving them? How much is too much?
Ha! Of course she is fine with it. This poor sap is setting himself up for failure. I sure hope she is giving him "gifts" in return. If I bought a gift for a woman I expect "something" in return. If not, she goes bye-bye. That's just the way it goes.
 
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PBateman wrote :
Ha! Of course she is fine with it. This poor sap is setting himself up for failure. I sure hope she is giving him "gifts" in return. If I bought a gift for a woman I expect "something" in return. If not, she goes bye-bye. That's just the way it goes.
Well she says she cooks for him. Maybe he is OK with it.
 
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beccaf87 wrote :
I enjoy making things or making cookies. I like doing small little things. With some occasional bigger things.
Some women know just the right things to say...


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We began the conversation about how financially responsible he is, but that he spends a lot of money buying her gifts.
I guess it would feel like I'm trying to buy a woman's heart or something. I guess whatever works for them is fine and it's different for everyone. The best gifts I've ever gotten were things that aren't very valuable, but, show that somebody really knows me.
 
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dmi wrote :
Some women know just the right things to say...




I guess it would feel like I'm trying to buy a woman's heart or something. I guess whatever works for them is fine and it's different for everyone. The best gifts I've ever gotten were things that aren't very valuable, but, show that somebody really knows me.
Yes cookies are awesome .

But this is how I feel to. I guess I am not as materialistic as a lot of people. I think smaller more thoughtful things are much better than larger things that have no personal meaning.
 
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beccaf87 wrote :
Yes cookies are awesome .

But this is how I feel to. I guess I am not as materialistic as a lot of people. I think smaller more thoughtful things are much better than larger things that have no personal meaning.
I once bought a bunch of small things (under $20 each) that made me think of someone over the course of months as a birthday gift...he said it was the best gift he ever received. It cost me maybe $100? But each little thing was very "him."

He bought me a couch for Christmas. Which was nice (I needed one) and expensive. But I would have been happy with some small thoughtful things, too.
 
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