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LongLocks is offline LongLocks Post #21  June 13,2011, 6:20pm
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Love, love, love a gift-giving man! Just makes me feel very special.
 
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Honestly? All those gifts would freak me out.....like he was trying to make me feel obligated OR that it was just an automatic thing he did with women, thinking that was what we all wanted (nothing like feeling like one in a crowd!). I would far prefer small, thoughtful tokens, such as a card or personal note, a single flower presented with a gentle kiss, etc.

I really prefer actions above all else, such as a call just to say I was thinking about you, or a massage after a long day.....

The only expensive gift I would feel comfortable accepting would be an engagement ring .
 
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The Five Languages of Love:

*Words of Affirmation
*Quality Time
*Gifts
*Acts of Service
*Physical Touch

We are all different.
 
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busybusy wrote :
The only expensive gift I would feel comfortable accepting would be an engagement ring .
How quickly do you let him know he should start saving up for the ring?
 
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I enjoy giving random small tokens of affection to my partner. I enjoy less receiving them because they always make me self-conscious. But, that is after a more committed relationship is established.

Gift giving in the early, getting to know each other stages, seems like a foul to me. This is the judgment stage and it seems almost like you are trying to bribe the judge, the giftee, with gifts.

Being taken out on a date and treated, is more than enough gift for me in the early stages. In turn, I like to plan some of the dates and treat him as well.

Gifts, to me, really are about "it's the thought that counts". If you give me a gift before you care about me or know me, what is the thought behind the gift? "I just wanted to know I am interested in you?" "Wow, you are hot and I want you to sleep with you?" "Please like me?"

Once a real relationship is established, then I love giving little tokens that say, "I care about you". I usually give one every one or two months. I might mail a card with a personal note inside. I might bake him some cookies (or whatever sweet he happens to enjoy most). I might randomly text him sweet nothings. Or, just do something for him I know needs done but he hasn't had the time to to it for himself yet.

I do enjoy things like that in return. The best gifts are those that cost little to no money and have thought, caring, and love behind them.
 
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harnomygirl wrote :
How quickly do you let him know he should start saving up for the ring?
Depends on what type of ring she wants.
 
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Depends on what type of ring she wants.
The girl who told me to try eH broke up with her match when they couldn't agree on the cost of the ring. That little shopping trip saved them the cost of divorce lawyers later on.

She now thinks God's plan may be for her to remain single...
 
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The girl who told me to try eH broke up with her match when they couldn't agree on the cost of the ring. That little shopping trip saved them the cost of divorce lawyers later on.

She now thinks God's plan may be for her to remain single...
Asinine. At least he found out about it now rather than later. Really, if I meant a guy willing to marry me and who I wanted to marry. The cost of the ring would be the last thing on my mind.

And, if you want a ring that costs more than your guy wants to pay, why don't you cover the difference?
 
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Asinine. At least he found out about it now rather than later. Really, if I meant a guy willing to marry me and who I wanted to marry. The cost of the ring would be the last thing on my mind.

And, if you want a ring that costs more than your guy wants to pay, why don't you cover the difference?
I think her list was too concrete. Everything on it had to be exceeded, or met exactly, or the relationship wasn't meant to be. I'm sure she'll get over it. So will he. I think her problem was fear, not greed.
 
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cookies? did someone say COOKIES? omg I'm a sucker for oatmeal chocolate chip! I've even done small plumbing jobs for cookies (my local baker had a leaky faucet and he wanted to pay me but I said no so he knew I loved cookies so he made me 2 dozen!!!)....

A woman that brings me cookies will have me forever!!!!
How about fresh peach, cherry or apple pie? I mean from scratch, pitting the cherries and pealing the apples and or peaches.
 
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