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SamSamSam is offline SamSamSam Post #1  June 11,2011, 9:03pm
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I just watched it again, there is a line in that movie.

"why do i fall in love with every woman I see that shows me the least bit of attention"

What is up with that? Is it wiring? a dysfunction? psychosis? If so I've felt guilty of it on a few occasions, It's a most annoying phenomena!
 
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I haven't seen the movie, but, as a women, I have not experienced the phenomenon of men falling in love with any women who shows them the less bit of attention.

If someone feels this way, I suspect that what you are experiencing is lust - that you are interested in the woman who shows you attention. It is hard, sometimes to tell the difference, especially if you have never truly been in love.

If you are looking for a relationship, I'd just take it slow and get to know the woman to see if something real does develop.
 
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SamSamSam wrote :
I just watched it again, there is a line in that movie.

"why do i fall in love with every woman I see that shows me the least bit of attention"

What is up with that? Is it wiring? a dysfunction? psychosis? If so I've felt guilty of it on a few occasions, It's a most annoying phenomena!
This is a line that will strike a chord with a lot of people.

I know when I have felt particularly lonely and have low self-esteem, this has been true of me. From experience, though, I know that this shortcoming attracts the wrong people!

The cure is to get one's self esteem back by engaging in rewarding activities and socializing more often.
 
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annother wrote :
This is a line that will strike a chord with a lot of people.

I know when I have felt particularly lonely and have low self-esteem, this has been true of me. From experience, though, I know that this shortcoming attracts the wrong people!

The cure is to get one's self esteem back by engaging in rewarding activities and socializing more often.
well....it would seem that socializing would be a way to gain self esteem, but it dont work for everyone. unless i was going to the local pub to meet a couple friends for karaoke and a few drinks, i never went out. i dont feel comfortable around ppl, i mean social situations, when im alone. i feel like melting into a shadow and vanishing when im around ppl i dont know. now tht i think of it, even when i was with a mate and her friends, i still did what i could to melt into the room and "get below the radar grid" you could say. besides, they were her friends, she deserved to have the most time with them.

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kage_no_mozaiku wrote :
well....it would seem that socializing would be a way to gain self esteem, but it dont work for everyone. unless i was going to the local pub to meet a couple friends for karaoke and a few drinks, i never went out. i dont feel comfortable around ppl, i mean social situations, when im alone. i feel like melting into a shadow and vanishing when im around ppl i dont know. now tht i think of it, even when i was with a mate and her friends, i still did what i could to melt into the room and "get below the radar grid" you could say. besides, they were her friends, she deserved to have the most time with them.

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Most of us suffer from social anxiety to some degree, but your experience seems to be quite extreme.

Socializing, though, does not have to involve several people. Meeting just one person for lunch or a drink is a social activity.
 
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