Height/Weight - Hypocritical or Unrealistic Expectations?


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harnomygirl is offline harnomygirl Post #21  June 1,2011, 12:53pm
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tangochef wrote :
Are people being hypocritical or having unrealistic expectations when they themselves do not measure up to their own standards?
Cinderella wanted a Prince. She got him. Apparently, he thought her beauty was as valuable as his pedigree. I assume that people on eH who want someone thinner than they are think they have something more valuable than a low BMI to bring to the table. They want a chance to show what that is. They don't want matches to screen them out before they can do that. That's the message I keep hearing when I read the boards.

I want someone 5'11'' to 6'2'' who is easy going and has interests that keep his focus off me sometimes so I can have space. I'm only 5'6'' and can get intense if I don't watch out for it. I don't think I'm a hypocrite. Some tall, easy going guys do think I have something valuable to offer that makes up for the disparity in our personalities. Luckily, they didn't screen me out for something I think should not matter.

In general, I tend to keep an eye on my BMI. I just think it's a good idea since I want to have more dating options and you can never tell what baggage men might have when it comes to weight. I can't change my height so I try not to worry about it. I do envy tall girls though. What does the world look like from up there?
 
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I don't believe anyone here has ever insisted such a thing. It is just much more common to see threads on here about shorter men or heavier woman. I don't think anyone would ever insist that women are not also pre-judged and overlooked because of their height, or that men are never passed upon because of their weight.
Ok, well I think it should be equally discussed that people get discriminated against in all spectrums of the height/weight scale. Overweight people in general are deemed less attractive than those who are physcially fit. However, there are overweight people who are in relationships and have no problem getting dates, marrying and starting families. The same can be said about those who are extremely short and/or tall.

I can assure you that being an ideal height has no gurantees of success in the dating/relationship realm. Same goes with being an ideal weight/body type.

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harnomygirl wrote :
I do envy tall girls though. What does the world look like from up there?
The guys all look shorter

Seriously, as a tall girl, it is super-noticeable to me how many taller guys date much shorter women. I don't know why that is, but maybe for every shorter girl who wants a taller guy, there is a taller guy who wants a shorter girl, and they find each other.
 
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mitchell175 wrote :
The guys all look shorter
Hahahaha!
 
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savman wrote :
... A friends wife told me that I should take up yoga, and that might be worth a shot.
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I belong to a local high-end gym (The Sports Club/LA - Orange County) . I am usually one of very few guys in the "ab" workouts on the weekends.

Ditto for the Zumba classes.

I got some looks at first, but once it was realised I could keep up, and I was not there just to hook-up, I started making friends after I became a regular .

Step classes are good as well. I just don't like to go to them any more.
 
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harnomygirl wrote :

...I want someone 5'11'' to 6'2'' who is easy going and has interests that keep his focus off me sometimes so I can have space. I'm only 5'6'' and can get intense if I don't watch out for it. I don't think I'm a hypocrite.
I don't think you are a hypocrite either. At 6', I have no problems with someone 5'6" (which is above average height anyway). I look at them as if they are 5'9"+ depending on the heels.
 
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A friends wife told me that I should take up yoga, and that might be worth a shot.
I second this. My gym offers all sorts of different free classes and they are all full of... women. As a single woman I'm also keeping my eye out for the nice single men in class. Sadly, there are none. So, I suggest trying the classes and striking up conversations with the womenz.

And people told me the gym would be a good place to meet guys . All I see are women and elderly men.
 
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The guys all look shorter

Seriously, as a tall girl, it is super-noticeable to me how many taller guys date much shorter women. I don't know why that is, but maybe for every shorter girl who wants a taller guy, there is a taller guy who wants a shorter girl, and they find each other.
You know, ever guy who has shown a speck of interest in me, online, has always been tall. I mean like 6' + tall. I don't seek them out because I don't care a fig how tall they are. And I know they don't seek me out because I'm only 5' tall. Personally, I wish they were shorter. But, my point is, we don't gravitate towards each other because of our height - it is because we liked each other's personality.

Tall/Short combos I think happen just because they happen. I really don't think height played any part in it.
 
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Hey..this thread coincides with the start of the season of The Little Couple on TLC...I mean, if the guy Bill, who is 4'....found the love of his life...Jenn..who is 3'2...then there is hope for all

(And btw she is one of the heads of the NICU in at Children's Hospital in Houston...and he runs his own successful business...) nothing keeps them down!..
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I second this. My gym offers all sorts of different free classes and they are all full of... women. As a single woman I'm also keeping my eye out for the nice single men in class. Sadly, there are none...
I think part of it is that a lot of men are embarrassed to be in some of those classes. They are pretty fast paced, and if one is not familiar with the routines one would look like fish out of water. Also, guys at the gym are not as good in shape aerobically as they think they are.

I have tried to get some friends to come to the classes with me, and that was their reason to bail out. Now, myself, after the first few classes no issues, I don't embarrass easily.
 
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